A New Approach to Anger

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    from: 2008, June 7, Respecting Anger 


    Stim Morane: it’s important that there should be awareness of the fact of anger, the feeling of being a victim, etc.  Anger is fire, it likes to burn. Traditionally it is mentioned as particularly dangerous because it wants to break everything, come what may (later). on the other hand, anger too has intelligence,it’s not completely lacking in an awakened nature. So the “answer”, packaged one way or another, is to restrain but respect the anger

    Stim Morane: we get angry at people for making us feel angry, but anger also likes itself, in a way. The trick is to not indulge that absorption, but also to respect anger in its essence
    Stim Morane: the issue is, can we keep the energy of emotion without being moved out of appreciation of presence
    Stim Morane: repressing emotions isn’t very realistic, especially since they include some very important features of our existence. Each thing has its own character, but the same essence.

    Stim Morane: in a sense, what I’m saying is that we usually want “to do something” about these states, but perhaps it’s also important to really have them, rather than just sort of having them, if this is possible without being carried away further from presence …

    Stim Morane: As most of you probably know, the more traditional angle on this is also to ask “who” is angry. The point here is to see how we get redefined by our states… once redefined, it’s difficult for us to work things out, because “we” are part of the limited condition.
    Stim Morane: But to flip this over, our real nature is the same as that of the anger.

    Stim Morane: So Pia, we have used this example you mentioned of anger, and said that it too can be appreciated in a way that is fruitful and relevant.
    Lessa Llewellyn: well, the anger could indicate, at minimum, something that is important to you
    Stim Morane: yes, you would think so. or at least important to the “you” who is caught in the anger. it’s funny how we can care so much we’re willing to kill, and yet with more clarity, we don’t.

    Stim Morane: well I’ve been mentioning an inclusionary approach, rather than a “how can I make it go away?” one. The reason is that the main topic here is Being, which means some fundamental dimension of all things, not one thing among many.
    Stim Morane: So anger too has to be appreciated as being It. How, exactly, may be beyond my powers to convey.
    Stim Morane: But you could start by just asking questions while you’re angry. The traditional question is “who?”, who is angry. But you could use others. You could ask, “what is anger like in my body?” Then “my energy?”. “what does the world look like in this anger?” Etc.
    Stim Morane: The reason is that such questions are a simple way of approximating a view that doesn’t just run with the rationalizations of the anger. And they also are at least a bit appreciative.
    Stim Morane: the main point is that anger is not anger. There is always more there than we think. So we start with the bits that are easy to discover.
    Stim Morane: eventually we can see that anger is within a kind of sacred dimension.
    Stim Morane: More generally, we are really talking about “experience”. Anger is just an example.

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