2008.07.07 07:00 - Aikido

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    That morning, I met Riddle at the pavilion, and for a while it was just the two of us there.

    Pema Pera: Hi Riddle!
    Riddle Sideways: good morning
    Pema Pera: good evening :)
    Riddle Sideways: brb
    Pema Pera: k
    Riddle Sideways: back,
    Riddle Sideways: too many interruptions
    Riddle Sideways: no one else here?
    Riddle Sideways: have been meaning to ask you
    Pema Pera: nope
    Pema Pera: seems that way :)
    Pema Pera: yes?

    Riddle switched to go.

    Riddle Sideways: have you ever met an american Go student living in Japan named Robert Blasdale?
    Pema Pera: no, I don’t think so
    Pema Pera: I’m not very tigthly coupled to the go world, much as I would like to
    Riddle Sideways: I have not seen him in 5 years and had his shodan then
    Pema Pera: if a day had 240 hours, I would spend one tenth on playing go . . . . .
    Riddle Sideways: ok, watch out for a tall blonde california kid :)
    Pema Pera: :-)
    Pema Pera: shodan professional?
    Riddle Sideways: idk
    Pema Pera: idk?
    Riddle Sideways: I don’t Know
    Pema Pera: ah!
    Pema Pera: idk idk :)
    Pema Pera: but now idk idk : as in I do know
    Riddle Sideways: there is a current american tv commericial running that has idk in it
    Pema Pera: ah — never watch tv
    Riddle Sideways: others told me about it
    Riddle Sideways: there is a loud bird in here that sounds like the Jay that wakes me each day
    Pema Pera: :-)

    And then he switched to our recent PaB history.

    Riddle Sideways: I have been too busy this last week (make that 2 weeks) to write emails
    Pema Pera: it seems that your wiki posting example finally has gotten many followers
    Riddle Sideways: to the google groups
    Riddle Sideways: but have read most of them
    Pema Pera: yes, interesting times — so much happens here every week
    Pema Pera: it really feels like every week here is so different
    Pema Pera: of course there are 28 session in a week . . . . .
    Riddle Sideways: I have 30 years in Aikido and non-conflict resolution / defence only stuff
    Pema Pera: yes?
    Pema Pera: wow!
    Riddle Sideways: to read / watch how ya’ll approached conflict
    Pema Pera: what did you see, from that experience background, here in PaB?
    Pema Pera: Hi Cal!
    Riddle Sideways: you dealt with things most wonderfully
    Riddle Sideways: Hi Cal
    Pema Pera: You arrived with the Ravenhaven Express :) ?
    Caledonia Heron: hi there:)
    Pema Pera: oh, thank you!
    Pema Pera: It was my form of paying respect
    Caledonia Heron: sorry to drop on you…didn’t finesse the landing to well :)
    Pema Pera: returning compiments, so to speak, as best I could
    Riddle Sideways: lol
    Pema Pera: np, Cal!
    Pema Pera: Hi Sky!
    Riddle Sideways: something about a puff dress landing :)

    Cal and Sky had arrived, and I respond to Riddle’s earlier remarks.

    Pema Pera: Only later did I read your chatbot session though, that was fun!
    Caledonia Heron: :)
    Pema Pera: But honestly, I really respect Caspian. I don’t know whether I could have responded as well as he did.
    Riddle Sideways: I had read no session with him before, so thought that the random verbage was a bot
    Caledonia Heron: ah, we met last night
    Caledonia Heron: :)
    Caledonia Heron: hi Sky :)
    Riddle Sideways: Hi Sky
    Pema Pera: That is one point, and the other point which I very much respect is the way he adapted afterwards
    Pema Pera: and understood in what way we did things differently
    Pema Pera: hi Sky!
    Pema Pera: Very impressive, on both counts
    Sky Szimmer: hey there.
    Pema Pera: But you started this thread with your experience in conflict resolution
    Pema Pera: What would have been your approach?
    Pema Pera: Cal and Sky, Riddle talked about his 30 years experience
    Pema Pera: with aikido and conflict resolution
    Riddle Sideways: was only seeding the chat… but would have been a combo of Dakini and Storm
    Caledonia Heron: ok, thanks
    Pema Pera: I’m not sure I parsed that : seeding? combo?
    Riddle Sideways: seeding as in stating a conversation
    Pema Pera: ah!

    I ask Riddle about Aikido.

    Pema Pera: sounds very interesting though, defense only
    Pema Pera: how does that inform your daily life?
    Riddle Sideways: handling situation as in somewhere between those
    Riddle Sideways: I first took Aikido off the Mat into business practices
    Riddle Sideways: managers that attack me in my office
    Riddle Sideways: then it started to work into daily life
    Caledonia Heron: gosh, rough business :)
    Caledonia Heron: are you a teamster? ha ha
    Riddle Sideways: a matter of words
    Pema Pera: Hi Fael!
    Caledonia Heron: hi Fael :)
    Fael Illyar: Hi Pema, Cal, Sky
    Pema Pera: hehe
    Riddle Sideways: verbal attacks are sometimes as tough
    Riddle Sideways: Hi Fael
    Pema Pera: or more almost
    Fael Illyar: Hi Riddle

    Fael joins us, so there are no five of us.

    Caledonia Heron: or more…still, that’s weird for an office environment
    Riddle Sideways: no I did not mean the feirce attacks
    Pema Pera: subtle sneers can be more hurtful than in your face attacs, is that what you meant?
    Faenik: ah :)
    Riddle Sideways: just the managers storming into office asking for schedules and why-nots
    Caledonia Heron: hmmm, ok
    Pema Pera: that’s when you decided to start your own business?
    Riddle Sideways: pretty much :)
    Riddle Sideways: no, actually that was years before
    Riddle Sideways: ha, I am being currently atttacked by a kitten
    Caledonia Heron: much nicer :)
    Pema Pera: are you defenseless :)
    Caledonia Heron: pointy little teeth
    Riddle Sideways: yes, pointy claws
    Faenik: ah :)
    Riddle Sideways: insistant meaows… pet me
    Riddle Sideways: Aikido works with teenagers to
    Caledonia Heron: katma
    Riddle Sideways: they are different animals every few minutes
    Riddle Sideways: you never know which child will enter the room
    Caledonia Heron:
    Riddle Sideways: you never sure how to respond
    Riddle Sideways: cal?
    Caledonia Heron: looking up aikido….”concern for the well-being of the attacker”
    Pema Pera: as in wikipedia :)
    Pema Pera: now we got it :-)
    Caledonia Heron: yes Pema….sorry text shorthand
    Pema Pera: kitten does not do aikido?
    Pema Pera: or does
    Pema Pera: being the attacker
    Riddle Sideways: yes, defensive only… use/defuse attacker energy to deflect
    Riddle Sideways: ah but kitten does attack
    Pema Pera: self concern
    Pema Pera: concern for well being of self attacking :)

    Cal and Riddle extend aikido to words, and I ask about judo.

    Caledonia Heron: I like to use verbal aikido if there is such a thing :)
    Riddle Sideways: yes the principles apply
    Riddle Sideways: you all know of attacking words
    Riddle Sideways: and surrender words
    Caledonia Heron: you can redirect a lot of stuff with humor, reversals, things like that
    Riddle Sideways: between the 2 are many other words forms
    Riddle Sideways: yes cal,
    Riddle Sideways: be practiced in humor, questioning, subject changing, etc.
    Riddle Sideways: and tone of voice
    Pema Pera: so that is more subtle than judo then
    Riddle Sideways: which is very hard in texting
    Caledonia Heron: yes, tone of voice is so powerful
    Riddle Sideways: oh yes, I took judo too
    Pema Pera: where in judo you turn the energy of the opponent against his/her-self
    Pema Pera: but here yuo don’t even use the energy, right?
    Riddle Sideways: right, or to a limited way
    Pema Pera: interesting! I like to talk about avoidance, transformation, and as-is
    Pema Pera: flight, judo, aikido may be a bit similar
    Pema Pera: respectively
    Riddle Sideways: instead of meeting a force headon or throwing it aside… it seems better to step out of the path
    Sky Szimmer: what is the relationship between avoidance, transformation and as is?
    Pema Pera: Sky, do you mean the relationship between those three or connection with aikido etc?
    Faenik: indeed?
    Sky Szimmer: guess i’m not following too well, never mind.
    Pema Pera: I only mentioned very briefly, sorry
    Riddle Sideways: much more transformation

    I explain a bit more about the possible parellel between avoidance, transformation, and as-is, on the one hand, and flight, judo, aikido, on the other.

    Pema Pera: three different kind of practice in Tibetan Buddhism, for example, but with far wider applications:
    Pema Pera: renunciation, transformation, as-is
    Pema Pera: you can avoid dangerous things
    Pema Pera: or you can try to transform them
    Riddle Sideways: yes
    Pema Pera: or you can try to see them as they are
    Pema Pera: does that make sense, Riddle, that parallel?
    Riddle Sideways: exactly parallel
    Pema Pera: Play as Being, btw, is squarely in the as-is category
    Pema Pera: even more so than, say, zen — or at least as much so
    Riddle Sideways: which is why I am very interested in PaB and come here
    Pema Pera: and then not Buddhist
    Pema Pera: very minimal
    Pema Pera: not even spiritual, really
    Pema Pera: Yes, I can see more and more what attracts you to PaB
    Pema Pera: and what we in PaB can learn from you in return, both
    Pema Pera: It’s so nice, all these different influences and ingredients
    Pema Pera: Many of them Buddhist, although among the five of us, I guess we have zero Buddhists, right?

    I just realized, looking around the circle, that none of us are primarily Buddhist, unlike about half of the frequent participants in PaB, an interesting fluctuation.

    Riddle Sideways: and more that have not been mentioned yet
    Pema Pera: :)
    Caledonia Heron wants to be a spice
    Pema Pera: spice girl>?
    Caledonia Heron: lol, not so much :)
    Pema Pera: :)
    Pema Pera: spice gal
    Caledonia Heron: :)
    Riddle Sideways: or the added special ingrediant
    Caledonia Heron: the not so secret ingredient
    Pema Pera: special effects is Moon then
    Sky Szimmer: hey Pema, the other day, Dakini aske what no self feels like, can you answer that?
    Sky Szimmer: asked
    Pema Pera: big question . . .
    Caledonia Heron: lol, not to put to fine a point on it :)
    Caledonia Heron: *too
    Fael Illyar: :)
    Pema Pera: but speaking from my own experience
    Pema Pera: it feels just the same like having a self
    Pema Pera: but far lighter, like a shirt instead of a skin
    Pema Pera: something you wear and are not worried about too much
    Pema Pera: again, have to think about the aikido parallel
    Pema Pera: can go one way or another
    Pema Pera: not fixed
    Pema Pera: don’t care too much
    Pema Pera: (and no rules ! ! ! !)
    Pema Pera: :)
    Caledonia Heron: :)

    Back to Aikido, and suddenly we were really flying, it seemed.

    Riddle Sideways: no need to parallel everything to Aikido but…
    Caledonia Heron: not attached one way or the other?
    Pema Pera: yes
    Riddle Sideways: what if there was no you and I combating
    Caledonia Heron: yes :)
    Riddle Sideways: what if WE were just dancing
    Pema Pera: yes!
    Pema Pera: with every mistake in the dance being taken up instantly as a new variation
    Pema Pera: a new pattern
    Caledonia Heron: what if we are just dancing even when we think we are combating….it’s still the dance maybe
    Riddle Sideways: exactly
    Pema Pera: a new invention
    Pema Pera: yes, Fael and I talked about not knowing that we already know, six hours ago . . . .
    Riddle Sideways: variation, change, invention = life
    Faenik: why not?
    Pema Pera: you gotta love Faenik!
    Pema Pera: our house bot
    Caledonia Heron: he chimes in at opportune moments :)
    Riddle Sideways: :)
    Pema Pera: pavilion bot
    Caledonia Heron: lol

    One way to spot a fake Faenik, it seems, is that the fake one consistently starts with a space in front of the sentence, even though in SL both speak in green . . .

    Faenik is a bit apprehensive, wondering whether a fake Faenik will appear again, one of these days . . . .
    Faenik loves wells!
    Faenik: I am not !!
    Caledonia Heron: I just had this picture that Caspian was doing the jitterbug while we are doing the waltz and now the tempos come to meet each other :)
    Pema Pera: nice, I like that!
    Riddle Sideways: ah now you get it Cal
    Caledonia Heron: coming to meet
    Pema Pera: I’m getting it too — and it feels like each time when we talk it is again fresh, like getting it again :)
    Pema Pera: in different ways
    Riddle Sideways: just add the no self part
    Pema Pera: the diversity of this group is just amazing
    Caledonia Heron: a fresh flower every day
    Pema Pera: Well, I have to take off
    Riddle Sideways: me too
    Faenik meaows ‘Faenik was AFK, sorry.’
    Pema Pera: Please do keep talking if you like!
    fake Faenik: np :)
    Riddle Sideways: lol
    Caledonia Heron: uh-oh, now Faenik has a doppelganger
    Caledonia Heron: an un-doppelganger
    other fake Faenik: or a tripleganger?
    Caledonia Heron: googleganger
    Pema Pera: great seeing you all!
    Faenik: Bye Pema, Riddle, Sky, Cal.
    Sky Szimmer: bye!
    Caledonia Heron: yes, see you soon :)
    Pema Pera: Bye Fael, Faenik, and imaginary Faeniks-wanna-bees!
    Riddle Sideways: bye all
    Pema Pera takes a humble bow

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