2009.03.20 01:00 - Even teddybears have their own secret sorrows

Wol Euler was guardian and commenter for this session.

I arrived to find the Playgoda occupied by Miss Nabby Philly and her teddybear.

Wol Euler: morning nabby
Nabby Philly: Mornin Miz Euler
Nabby Philly: Sorry I was lost in thought
Wol Euler: I don't think you've been here before?
Nabby Philly: Yes I have been (giggles)
Nabby Philly: I just had a nice talk with a man who wanted to know "who are these people"
Wol Euler: ok, so you know the rules and that what we say here is recorded on our website. Good :)
Nabby Philly: yes, I met some nice people the other night
Nabby Philly: One of them was cleaning his office
Nabby Philly: You seem like a nice peerson :)
Wol Euler: I try to be :)
Wol Euler: it's not always easy.
Nabby Philly: No, that is the nature of our human existence
Nabby Philly: (giggles)
Wol Euler nods. Though I am sure that even teddybears have their own secret sorrows, could we but hear them.
Nabby Philly: My teddy is a happy teddy
Wol Euler smiles. I'm glad to hear that.
Nabby Philly: are they wings?
Wol Euler: no, it's a rather marvellous dress, in the "sitting flat" position
Wol Euler: let me walk around a little, show you how it looks
Nabby Philly: Oh, it is very pretty
Nabby Philly: ooooo
Wol Euler: this is how it usually looks, when I'm standing
Nabby Philly: Thank you Miz Euler
Nabby Philly: Wowzie
Wol Euler: very :)
Nabby Philly: I hope when I am big I can have a dress like that and be pretty like you and my Mommy
Wol Euler smiles. I am quite sure that you will, Nabby.
Nabby Philly: I have trouble sitting still for the nine seconds (giggles)
Wol Euler: though true beauty is an inner attribute anyway, as you will also discover
Nabby Philly: you are very wise Miz Euler
Wol Euler: many people who are beautiful on the outside are angry and unhappy inside.
Nabby Philly: ooooh
Nabby Philly: they need a teddy
Wol Euler: indeed they do.
Wol Euler: for certain values of "teddy"
Nabby Philly: like sitting still for nine seconds?
Wol Euler: my teddy is to try to remember that what I think is not necessarily the reason for what I see
Wol Euler: and the nine seconds, yes, that's also a good one
Wol Euler: I see somebody doing something that obstructs my wishes, and am tempted to become angry at them. But their reason may be entirely different, they might even be doing it to help me with a problem that I haven't noticed yet.
Nabby Philly: One does not always wish for what is good for oneself
Wol Euler: mmhmm

Spinach and coffee in Rome.

Nabby Philly: I feel that way about spinach
Wol Euler laughs. Yeah, I hear you.
Wol Euler: but people change too.
Wol Euler: I used to hate spinach, when I was your age, but I love it now.
Wol Euler: I discovered taht what I hated was how my mother used to over-cook it
Nabby Philly: oooh
Nabby Philly: it gets all slimy
Wol Euler: it doesn't need to, though, and that is what my mother never figured out
Nabby Philly: Did that make you angry?
Wol Euler: no, it made me very sad.
Wol Euler: because she was proud of being a good cook, and I discovered a proof that she was not a _great_ cook.
Wol Euler: it was as though I had been snooping and had uncovered a secret, something that I should not have seen
Nabby Philly: oooh that is sad for her
Nabby Philly: My Mommy is still perfect :)
Wol Euler: good :)
Wol Euler: some are, yours might be one of them!
Nabby Philly: (giggles) but I am just six
Nabby Philly: excuse me my battery is low..I have to find a plug
Wol Euler: :)
Wol Euler: I shall seize the moment to turn on the coffeemaker, then
Nabby Philly: hehe. I am back
Nabby Philly: but you can make some coffee :)
Wol Euler: I'm back too.
Wol Euler: I would offer some but you are a bit too young for coffee
Nabby Philly: I interrupted what you were saying about being annoyed with people when they seem to be in the way. There seems to be more to that
Nabby Philly: Oh yes, coffee is blech!
Wol Euler grins. At your age (I'm sorry to keep saying that) I htought so too. I learned to drink it when I was 18, in Rome; and again the difference was that it was very well made there.
Nabby Philly: It is a good thing to learn Miz Euler
Nabby Philly: I'll remember that when I am in Rome (giggles)
Wol Euler: so, yes, about anger
Wol Euler ponders how to express this.
Wol Euler: it is natural to think that one is the centre of the world, because we see the world through our own eyes, located in the space that our body occupies.
Wol Euler: everything we see moves around us.

At this point we were interrupted by the arrival of a Person from Porlock Hangeul, and we never really finished this conversation.

Wertyman112 Unplugged: hello.
Wol Euler: (People used to think this about the entire universe, by the way: they used to think that God made the world for us and placed it around us)
Wol Euler: hello werty
Nabby Philly: hello Mr. Unplugged
Wertyman112 Unplugged: how are you?
Nabby Philly: I am learning about the universe (giggles)
Wol Euler: born yesterday, as they say. Welcome to second life
Nabby Philly: Yes, I can see that Miz Euler
Wertyman112 Unplugged: yeah
Nabby Philly: about being in the center of my world
Nabby Philly: me and teddy
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i just started yesterday lol i forgot where the hell is the starting place again, i wanna ride the rocket D:
Wol Euler: ah, you mean the welcome area. That is south of here.
Nabby Philly: teddy thinks I am the closest thing to his center
Wertyman112 Unplugged: oh south? ok thanks
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i mite go in a min
Wol Euler: if you press CMD-Alt-H ("go home") you might get there.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: it takes me to my house its like this big roman house
Wol Euler: the first place that you visit on the mainland becomes your home
Wol Euler: yep
Nabby Philly watches Miz Euler help the nice man
Wol Euler smiles
Wertyman112 Unplugged: :p
Wol Euler: this is in fact a meeting of a meditation and discussion group, Werty. I can give you a notecard if you are interested
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i already got one friend on second life he is telling me how to play
Wol Euler: :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok i would like a notice card.
Nabby Philly: My Mommy says to play nice
Wol Euler: having friends helps, just as in RL
Wertyman112 Unplugged: yeah
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ill read them
Wol Euler: you'll find a reference to our website in the notecard, that will give you far more information than you can use :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: thanks!
Wol Euler: One important thing: we publish the record of these meetings on the website.
Wol Euler: May we have your permission to include your name and your words in the record?
Wertyman112 Unplugged: cool!
Wertyman112 Unplugged: lol i cant make my own world i have L$0
Wol Euler: does that mean "yes"?
Wertyman112 Unplugged: lol yep
Nabby Philly: It is tough to be poor and alone in this new world
Wol Euler: good, ty.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: yeah
Nabby Philly: or the old one
Wertyman112 Unplugged: wow thanks
Wol Euler: you are no longer alone, and not as poor as you used to be :)
Wol Euler: but there is a catch.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: btw nabby i like ur teddeh :P
Wol Euler: you owe _me_ nothing. You owe the world. A stranger has done you a favour, for no other reason than that you needed it. Pass that on.
Nabby Philly: thank you Mr. Unplugged
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i am just going for a quick fly :P
Wertyman112 Unplugged: cya in a minute
Wol Euler: we'll be here
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok!

Werty leaves, and I attempt to return to the subject.

Wol Euler: so, centre of the world. yes.

Werty returns.

Wertyman112 Unplugged: oh yeah i remember that place lol
Nabby Philly: So how do we learn not to think we are at the center Miz Euler?
Nabby Philly: we are NOT at the center
Wol Euler: (brb, coffee is ready)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: by the way thanks for the L$!
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i will treasure it
Wol Euler: nah, spend it.
Nabby Philly: Miz Euler is a nice lady :)
Wol Euler: but wisely :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: yep :)
Wol Euler: $10 can go a very long way here.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i like your costume miss wol.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: its beautiful
Wol Euler: lemme give you a landmark to PixelDolls, they are having a sale ATM. Most items are $10
Wol Euler: thank you :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok!
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ill go see the place :)
Wol Euler: it's been on for a while, so don't leave it too late

Werty leaves.

Wol Euler: heh
Wol Euler: so, knowing that we are not at the centre.
Nabby Philly nods
Wol Euler: the first step is to learn that other people are real too.
Nabby Philly: ooooh
Nabby Philly: yes
Wol Euler: that they too have ideas and feelings and opinions and hopes and fears
Wol Euler: especially fears.
Nabby Philly thinks about that

Werty returns.

Wol Euler: jeez, werty, you are as indecisive as a cat on a cold but sunny day :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i got some new jeans
Wertyman112 Unplugged: :p
Nabby Philly: But some people would say we are not real
Nabby Philly: That can get very confusing
Wol Euler: mmhmm, it is.
Nabby Philly: but what you are saying is wise
Wol Euler: they are using the word "real" in different ways.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: looks like their sale was L$50
Nabby Philly: ah, yes
Nabby Philly: it is complicated
Wol Euler: ah, I see. Maybe it was only the womens' gear taht was $10...
Wertyman112 Unplugged: brb, customizing character

Scary monsters. 

Nabby Philly: I get afraid of the dark
Wol Euler nods. So do I, Nabby, but probably for different reasons
Nabby Philly: are you afraid fo the dark?
Nabby Philly: Oh. hehe
Nabby Philly: we both said it
Wol Euler: I fear not monsters under the bed, but things that might happen
Wol Euler: but these too are really just monsters. Tehy have not happened yet, and might not happen at all.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: yeah i some times watch scary movies and i fear the monsters but i conqour my fears and do not belive in them
Nabby Philly: Oh yes...we fear things even though they may only jst happen
Wertyman112 Unplugged: yeah
Wol Euler: until and unless they do, the fear is just wasted energy and time
Nabby Philly: Oh yes
Wol Euler: which we could have spent making ourselves happy
Wol Euler: or making other people happy
Wertyman112 Unplugged: you speak words that cannot be wrong
Nabby Philly: all the energy wasted on worrying
Wol Euler: :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: :)
Wol Euler: but it we think that we are the centre of the world, the reason for the world, then it is easy to fall into that trap of worrying.
Nabby Philly thinks
Wol Euler: because if we are the centre, then certain things _must_ happen! certain monsters must be real.
Wol Euler: and they must attack _us_ not the neighbours...
Nabby Philly shudders
Wol Euler: it's easier to think you are nobody special, just one of the crowd.
Wol Euler: (the cushions have two poses, werty, click on it to change)

Werty is in a hurry to start building and doing and making.

Wertyman112 Unplugged: i have a question wol
Wol Euler: sure
Wertyman112 Unplugged: how do you make your own clothes like your top
Wol Euler: um, with a lot of time and talent and energy.
Wol Euler: I've tried, it is far from easy.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: :(
Wol Euler: you need a copy of photoshop or equivalent
Wol Euler: and the templates, and a tutorial on how to do it.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: i got vista paint and paint.net
Wol Euler: lemme get a URL, you can look it up on the web
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok
Wol Euler: http://wiki.secondlife.com/wiki/Clothing_Tutorials
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok
Wol Euler: have a look at that, it will get you started
Nabby Philly: you can google all kinds of things by just putting "SL" in front of the term
Wol Euler nods. That too, yes.
Wol Euler: google knows everything.
Nabby Philly: it will bring up appropriate help pages
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok
Nabby Philly: It is better than the help provided here
Wol Euler: here's another very good tutorial: http://nicolaescher.com/tutorials.php
Wol Euler: step by step, clearly explained.
Nabby Philly: Just be patient, it takes time to learn everyhing
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ill just try myself first before i use the tutorial.
Wol Euler: and I can give you someting I made for myself when I trying to learn to make clothes (I gave up)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok
Wol Euler: I made a set of clothes of the standard templates, so that I could wear them and see how the parts fit together
Wertyman112 Unplugged: cool.
Wol Euler: just wear those :)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: thanks.
Wol Euler: there are separate templates for eyes and hair and skin, if you want to make them too. You can download them from the SL website
Wertyman112 Unplugged: nice gloves
Wol Euler: put on the rest :)
Nabby Philly: Some people never change clothes and that's cool
Wol Euler: yeah
Wol Euler: it depends what you think SL is for.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: nice pants
Wol Euler: many people who have been in-world for months or years still wear the first outfit they had as newborns
Nabby Philly: yep
Wertyman112 Unplugged: wow thanks!
Nabby Philly: and we love them just as much
Wol Euler: we do.
Wol Euler: that set of clothes is the standard template that you paint over when you make your own items
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ill wear them for parties and stuff :)
Nabby Philly: and lots of clothes are free
Nabby Philly: just search free under places
Wol Euler nods
Nabby Philly: and skins and shapes and motorcycles and plants and drinks and houses...all free
Wol Euler grins.
Nabby Philly: (giggles)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: where can you get the free motorcycles? i would like one
Nabby Philly: search "free" under places
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok
Nabby Philly: then you must wander around the places and choose
Nabby Philly: don;t say "yes" to any vampires (giggles)
Wertyman112 Unplugged: im searching now :p
Wol Euler: yeah, the vampires are a menace.
Nabby Philly: just say no
Wol Euler: heheh
Nabby Philly: My Mommy told me that
Nabby Philly: and Miz Reagan
Wol Euler: she's right.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ooh public sandbox!!
Wertyman112 Unplugged: imma gonna go there :)
Wol Euler: :)

Werty leaves. 

Nabby Philly sighs
Wol Euler: mm?
Nabby Philly: It has been fun meeting you Miz Euler
Wol Euler: likewise, Nabby, I hope you will come by again.
Nabby Philly: Will have to see...my Mommy may have something to say about my running around Second Life
Wol Euler: yeah, parents worry a lot.
Nabby Philly: I have had people try to adopt me
Wol Euler: O.O
Wol Euler: that can be good or very bad...
Nabby Philly: Yeah
Nabby Philly: They worry that my Mommy might not be up to it
Wol Euler snorts scornfully.
Wol Euler: I'm sure your mother is a fine woman and doing a great job. When I look at you, it is clear that you have been well brought up and dearly loved.
Nabby Philly: thank you Miz Euler :)
Nabby Philly: Yes my MOmmy loves me :)

Werty returns. 

Wertyman112 Unplugged: hi
Wertyman112 Unplugged: buildings a bit hard for a new player like me =/
Wol Euler: practice.
Wertyman112 Unplugged: ok
Wol Euler: do you know the Ivory Tower of Prims?
Nabby Philly: go to the Ivory Tower
Wertyman112 Unplugged: no wheres that?
Wol Euler: right
Nabby Philly: oh hehe we both said it
Wol Euler: LM coming up!
Wol Euler: it's a kind of 3d tutorial

Werty leaves.

Nabby Philly: yes, they tell you how to do everything
Nabby Philly: but Rome wasn't built in a day
Nabby Philly: which is why it is hhard to get good coffee nowdays
Wol Euler: right!
Wol Euler: The young are so impatient (sorry Nabby, not you)
Nabby Philly: (giggles)
Nabby Philly: He doesn;t listen all that well
Wol Euler: yeah.
Wol Euler: I suspect he is nearly as young in RL as in SL :)
Nabby Philly: wow, only two days old
Nabby Philly: (giggles)
Wol Euler: eagerness is good, I'd hate to stamp that out of anyone; but there is a difference between eager and hurry.
Nabby Philly: Teddy agrees
Nabby Philly: well I better go back home beforeMommy wakes up :)
Wol Euler: mmhmm, she would be worried.
Nabby Philly: yes indeed
Wol Euler: bye Nabby, take care. Bye teddy, watch over Nabby.
Nabby Philly: Teddy says Bye too
Wol Euler smiles
Nabby Philly: Teddy says nice meeting the nice lady
Wol Euler: likewise :)
Nabby Philly: bye bye :)