Emotion and Judgment

from: 2008.09.12 07:00 - Lag, latte and levels of accepting  

Fael Illyar: I still find it funny how you gain by accepting what you were seeking by rejecting.
Fael Illyar: I mean, many people have this, that they hate something without a real reason and can't accept that they hate it.That hate never vanishes because it's always rejected and left not dealt with so it keeps trying to get out.  And even gaining strength.
Fael Illyar: so, that sort of people often ends up getting very up in arms about it sometimes, because the natural safety valve is forcing them to let some of it out
quen Oh: well forgetting hate seems to be effective...
Fael Illyar: yes, but you need to accept it's there first before you can forget it
quen Oh: hate can be fed though… that I recognize
Fael Illyar: yes, this happens when you don't accept the emotion (like hate). That also leads you to believe you don't have it when the safety valve isn't letting it out.

doug Sosa: does hate always have a judgment at the core, a judgment we then viscerally energize?
doug Sosa: a judgment at the core wrapped in intense emotion.
doug Sosa: I think it might be easier to defuse if we see what the judgment is.
doug Sosa: then the PaB can explore the judgment. See how unimportant or illusory it is, or perhaps, connected with yet other things to explore.
Fael Illyar: judgments are what keep you from seeing clearly
Fael Illyar: filters, so to speak
doug Sosa: a horse sees a shadow in the grass, imagines a snake, and jumps. The jump is the emotion, the perception of snake is a judgment. This has survival value. But also for humans it can get in the way if we do not stop to figure: was it a shadow, or a snake, if a snake, what kind, and even if the worst, will it not want to leave us alone?
doug Sosa: but really, face it, let it be, let it see you, realize it is just the face of appearance of an onion of complexity that can be dissolved in accurate perception...