Trust Among Us

from "Measure of Trust"
2008, July 25, Friday

Trust between us

Maxine Walden: it speaks to the measure of trust that is growing here among us…
Pema Pera: YES!
Pema Pera: that’s one of the really AMAZING aspects of what we’re doing
Maxine Walden: the level of trust?
Pema Pera: yes
Pema Pera: I used an image the other day
doug Sosa: It feels “natural”, as though in rl we somehow miss each other, but here our more natural tendency to trust comes out.
Pema Pera: of a burning house
Pema Pera: guardians standing outside next to house
Pema Pera: a group of PaB guardians
Pema Pera: holding up one of those trampoline like devices
Pema Pera: to save people jumping out of the building
Pema Pera: each pulling in their own direction away from the others
Pema Pera: to make room in the middle, a safe place for others to land
Pema Pera: (what do you call these things?)
doug Sosa: safty nets.
doug Sosa: the net, each pulling away from the others, as if by pulling away they are pulling together


We face our vulnerability

Maxine Walden: not sure it is necessary, but I was aware that I took a few heavy, doubting feelings from yesterday’s conversation, and did write a note to you about them, which you responded to in a way which helped the ‘bits.’. I am so awed by how vulnerable we can feel, us as ‘grownups’ mostly still with open hearts and earnest hearts, can feel some pain in these frank discussions…
Pema Pera: yes, absolutely
Pema Pera: I am feeling vulnerable here on a daily basis :-)
Adams Rubble: You are putting yourself out there, Pema
Maxine Walden: and yet it is so necessary to be able to have that openness and frankness and feel whatever doubt there may be and then come back, trusting that we can all grow and help each other…feeling vulnerable does feel like such an essential part of all of this exploration
Pema Pera: yes
Gaya Ethaniel also agrees that supportive environment is important
Maxine Walden: and I am aware of feeling it a lot…does bring that ‘child’ part out which is there is us all, all the time
Adams Rubble: I feel that this little separation, i.e. we hide a bit behind our avatars, helps ease that vulnerability a bit
Maxine Walden: In my vulnerability to doubt and openness to learning, I feel that vulnerability to make me feel childlike, Gaya, does that speak to your question?
doug Sosa: one of the things i think i’ve learned here is that we really are not so vulnerable. No physical thraet, and psychicly we can leave at any moment. “sticks and stones..but name can never hurt me” seems more real here. The lesson is we could go farther faster in honest speech, with faith that we can recover from anything.