Chat Log Excerpts

example #1:

A 9-sec Moment
2008, June 23, Monday ·

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Sylectra Darwin: I’ve been on SL since Nov 2007 but haven’t been socially active until March.
Pia Iger: I am glad you came here.
Sylectra Darwin: Me too! Thank you.
stevenaia Michinaga: I haven;t stopped, as you can meet so many lovely people
Thorberg Nordlicht: similar story for me: found this group by chance; would have missed it if i’d wandered by at a different time; first time i’ve socialized since starting in sl 18 months ago
Thorberg Nordlicht: you mean us? are *we* more coherent??
Sylectra Darwin: did it open up whole new worlds to you like it did me?
Thorberg Nordlicht: well, i find this prefereable to the sl “club” scene
Sylectra Darwin: more meaningful interactions
Thorberg Nordlicht: i find it’s the only place in sl i can carry on a coherent conversation with most people i meet
Thorberg Nordlicht: whereas i *cannot* carry on a coherent conversation with most avatars i encounter in the sl clubs
Thorberg Nordlicht: seems to an interest in comparative religion, eastern thought, and buddhism filters for a certain kind of person
Thorberg Nordlicht: i think it’s amazing how the group has matured in only a few months
Thorberg Nordlicht: undoubtedly as a result of the hard work of our founders
Sylectra Darwin: I like the openness.
Thorberg Nordlicht: but besides that, there seems to be a “right place, right time” thing going on to bring together this particular group of people in this medium (SL) at this time
Sylectra Darwin: Cool deal. Trippy, even.
stevenaia Michinaga: and don;t forget the right people…pema
Pia Iger: Cultivating this group needs open-heart and open-mind, which is rare.
Thorberg Nordlicht: i guess part of what i’m saying is there are probably lots of avatars in recent SL history who thought, “how ’bout we start this group, and…” and they have great plans, but somehow it just *doesn’t* all come together
Thorberg Nordlicht: i just think it’s an interesting phenomenon going on that PasB *does* seems to be working on some level

example #2:

Anger and Compassion

2008, June 21, Saturday

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Stim Morane: Okay. Well anyway, I was just thinking perhaps what is
unnecessarily rigid about anger could be seen and leavened with some play
Stim Morane: Play needn’t be silly, although perhaps silliness is good
too. The question is whether play can restore us to reality.
Rajah Yalin: anger disappears through understanding
Stim Morane: Yes, can you say more re that?
Rajah Yalin: who do you think makes you angry?
Rajah Yalin: when it comes down to it, the one making you angry is you
Stim Morane: oh good, now we’re getting into the specifics
Stim Morane: Please proceed, Rajah.
Rajah Yalin: anger is work of the mind - good to get rid of the anger
is to meditate during time of the anger.. try to understand ‘why has my
mind made me angry? what could I do instead?’, etc.
Stim Morane: Yes. This is where the “play” might come in, for instance.
Rajah Yalin: yep
Stim Morane: In any case, good. Do you have some thoughts about this,
Bertrum?

After Rajah, Bertrum gave his perspective.

Bertrum Quan: i wonder how one separares play from reality–they seem
one in the same to me…
Stim Morane: Well said.
Stim Morane: But there are many types of play, and perhaps some are
more expressive of reality than others. Do you agree?
Bertrum Quan: no.
Stim Morane: Good.
Stim Morane: Please expand.
Bertrum Quan: how, for example can you separate an imaginative thought
from an observational thought– a cyber knife to the mind? the mind is
all one… being
Stim Morane: Bertrum, what I meant is that in traditional contemplative
teachings, it is indeed said that the “reality” at issue in the
practice has its own playful character. So then the idea would be to “play”
in a way that explicitly reflects that higher “play”.
Bertrum Quan: semantics… you can categorize… but it’s
Bertrum Quan: it’s possible to distinguish but it is a construct…
Bertrum Quan: that just my take on it…
Stim Morane: Yes, i begin to see. I was considering this in a
particular way, admittedly only one of many.
Stim Morane: Thanks.
Stim Morane: My comments were related to certain points in Vajrayana
and other Buddhist teachings, but we shouldn’t reduce “reality” to their
view.
Stim Morane: On the other hand, I was mentioning “reality” in the
context of addressing Pia’s concern about dealing with anger. IT would be
good if we had a way of helping with that.
Stim Morane: Rajah’s comments, for instance, were along that line …
Stim Morane: Adams, any thoughts?
Adams Rubble: I had a thought after Rajah spoke
Adams Rubble: that if I hold on to my anger than it is me who is making
me angry
Adams Rubble: but initial anger is not caused from me
Stim Morane: Yes, I think so.
Adams Rubble: I can eliminate some from understanding
Adams Rubble: but there are things that might me angry beyond my
understanding
Stim Morane: but your point about “holding on” is important, a good
starting place
Adams Rubble: I can only let that anger go
Stim Morane: Yes. How?
Adams Rubble: by not holding on to it
Stim Morane: Ha!
Adams Rubble: awareness of it

After Adams expressed her views, Bertrum responded.

Bertrum Quan: may I suggest an alternative?
Adams Rubble: yes
Stim Morane: This gets us into many issues re the self again, I’m
afraid. The angry self is by def not aware, not interested in letting go
eithher.
Stim Morane: Oh, please, Bertrum.
Bertrum Quan: i’m not sure that the anger is actually cause outside of
the mind—it’s all one. so in that sense anger is an emotion that makes
up the whole.
Stim Morane: Could you expand … I’m not sure I get you yet.
Bertrum Quan: it actually may come down one’s capacity for compassion
Stim Morane: yes, that’s certainly related.
Bertrum Quan: no one makes you angry in this sense…
Stim Morane: It would be good if we ended up getting to compassion, or
even weaving it in along the way.
Stim Morane: Yes, no one makes us be angry, especially in the sense of
holding on to it after the onset.
Stim Morane: So we’re back to letting go …
Stim Morane: the traditional comment is simply that it’s a codependent
thing, many factors, outside “us” and inside “us”. But ultimately it’s
our responsibility to let go.
Bertrum Quan: i heard a story by a monk who was terribly tortured…a
true story… what he felt was not anger but compassion
Stim Morane: Yes, Bertrum. This happened with several of my Tibetan
Teachers too.
Adams Rubble: Could you expand on the monk story?
Stim Morane: That needn’t mean that anger didn’t ever arise, but that
compassion took over very fast.
Pia Iger: what kind of compassion, towards to whom?
Stim Morane: At whom are you angry?
Stim Morane: Anyway, you were saying, Bertrum …?
Bertrum Quan: well, as he told the story…this was in Tibet, and in
prison there, the guards did unspeakable things to him… a cattle prod in
his mouth–knocking out all of his teeth… he did not feel anger but
compassion. his compassion grew deeper with each torture.
Adams Rubble: oh physical torture
Stim Morane: Yes, this may well be a story about one of my teachers.
Stim Morane: But we needn’t assume there was never a second of anger …
the issue is what then?
Bertrum Quan: to me this means that anger is one example of of largger
suffering…
Adams Rubble: How could he feel compassion to his torturers
Bertrum Quan: of human suffering—
Stim Morane: Yes. I agree, Bertrum.
Bertrum Quan: Adams, that is what draws me to Buddhist thinking… it’s a
paradox.
Stim Morane: We could illustrate by taking a more ordinary case.
Andams, has anyone ever done something to you that would tend to make you
angry, but that also shows you the larger suffering or “ignorance” of that
person himself?
Stim Morane: This is what looms large for someone like the monk
mentioned here.

Adams Rubble: I have much less serious irritations
Adams Rubble: in fact almost embarrassing to relate
Stim Morane: It’s not so paradoxical. It’s just about holding to a
larger perspective that includes others even while we ourselves are being
bugged.
Stim Morane: Yes?
Adams Rubble: but I have a neighbor who has a barking dog
Adams Rubble: when anyone in the neighborhood comes into their yard
Adams Rubble: the neighbor lets out the dog
Adams Rubble: who barks and barks for hours
Stim Morane: this is indeed a very irritating thing.
Stim Morane: Ordinarily, it would make total sense to be angry about
that, and only angry!
Adams Rubble: I can’t understand why the neighbor does this
Stim Morane: Because he/she is “ignorant” of the larger reality we’re
in. This is reason for compassion. But I admit it’s a very irritating
case.
Bertrum Quan: it may be to transcend irritation. we do the best we can.
the monk in the story i related was enlightened…
Bertrum Quan: hard to transcend
Stim Morane: It’s just a matter of priorities. If you see that you are
in a larger dimension that should be respected and acknowledged, and if
you see that anger occludes that, then it’s no so hard.
Stim Morane: And the “other person” is part of that dimension, and you
have compassion for him/her.
Stim Morane: Then you call the police to complain about the dog.
Adams Rubble: :)
Adams Rubble: haha
Stim Morane: Actually, first you’d try talking with the person, but
I’ve met many such neighbors and it usually doesn’t work.
Adams Rubble: I appreciate the wisdom of what you said about the larger
dimension
Stim Morane: Yes, without that, it would just come down to suppressing
anger, which is silly.
Bertrum Quan: that’s what we all strive for anyway
Stim Morane: Compassion in the sense Bertrum is mentioning is
explicitly an acknowledgement of that larger dimension … “compassion” is
actually part of that.
Stim Morane: It’s not just an attitude on our part.

These latter comments are drawn from traditional Mahayana Buddhist
views of compassion.

Bertrum Quan: yes, that is the point.
Stim Morane: This is explicitly stated in the very definition of
compassion in that tradition. But it has to be distinguished from ordinary
compassion.
Adams Rubble: could you expand on that?
Adams Rubble: the difference that is
Stim Morane: on the ordinary level, we could indeed feel the arising of
anger. Thoughts and passions are allowed to arise, based on
codependent arising. Then it’s our turn to take responsibility for the larger
dimension we are all in, and to make sure that anger does not persist and
thus occlude what should be respected
Stim Morane: EVen an “enlightened” person can be the locus of anger …
she just doesn’t let it take over or continue.
Stim Morane: But this is asking a lot.
Adams Rubble: Yes. But you seemed to say there are two kinds of
compassion
Stim Morane: I wonder if we can find a practical, closer-to-home level
of implementation.
Stim Morane: Yes, there are several types of compassion.
Adams Rubble: or levels
Stim Morane: The bodhisattva type is specifically rooted in what
Buddhists would call reality itself, not in our own ordinary mind.
Stim Morane: This is not an idealistic fantasy. IT’s very true.
Bertrum Quan: in the larger sense there’s Compassion related to
universal suffering….. there’s also compassion as a feeling, an emotion
Stim Morane: yes, the emotion case is not what we are now recommending.
That would just be swapping one emotion for another, which is not the
issue.
Stim Morane: So you are quite right.
Stim Morane: Anyway, this is a big subject, and we may have to stop for
now.
Adams Rubble: I have much to think about, thank you
Pia Iger: thanks, Stim. much to think off.
Stim Morane: I’m sorry I have to go, but am grateful that each of you
came and participated in the discussion.
Adams Rubble: I am very glad I came
Pia Iger: me, too. I felt I am directed to another direction, or new
dimension.