2008.05.17 13:00 - Sisterhood

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    The Guardian for this was Dakini, the comments are hers.

    I arrived at the teahouse for the 1PM session with a new title, from a group I had just joined…

    Maxine Walden: hi, Dakini, love your ‘heart warrior’ title
    Dakini: oh Maxine, I love this too - i just joined a new group with this title
    Maxine Walden: tell me…
    Dakini: yes, it was synchronicity
    Maxine Walden: wow, always a good sign
    Dakini: the woman who runs this group
    Dakini: is combining psychotherapy with buddhism
    Maxine Walden: oh!!
    Maxine Walden: in SL?
    Maxine Walden: the combination?
    Dakini: the discussion group is in SL - and she’s doing this in RL as well!
    Maxine Walden: interesting
    Dakini: she was just here in the zen retreat, i had hoped she might join us
    Dakini: do you think i should IM her?
    Dakini: i think the two of you would love to chat
    Maxine Walden: I would love to hear more about how she works, or your expeerience …yes, please
    Maxine Walden: IM her
    Dakini: but she also mentioned she has the flu
    Dakini: OK i’ll IM her
    Maxine Walden: oh, that can lay one low, the flu

    Not even a half hour earlier, I had met Ruby for the first time and, like Maxine, instantly liked the “Heart Warrior” title for her group. It conjures up an image of compassion and courage… So Ruby was summoned to our session and, regardless of the flu, she joined us.

    Maxine Walden: hi, very nice to meet you, I believe Dakini was just mentioning your group and your work which sounds very interesting
    Dakini: Maxine liked your Heart Warrior group title as well as I :-)))
    Ruby Quality: Yes, sounds like it’s time for a revival… lol
    Maxine Walden: yes, very nice title
    Dakini: we might say we’re heart warriors in a sense, doing this experiment to change our boundaries
    Dakini: it takes a certain amount of trust to attempt a change
    Ruby Quality: Dakini mentioned you trained in psychotherpay Maxine, where did you train if you don’t mind me asking?
    Maxine Walden: yes I have trained iin both the USA and England, but would say I have evolved over the years, and your experience?
    Maxine Walden: would consider myself an explorer of the unconscious realms from where our dreads and dreams originate
    Ruby Quality: I work in mental health and have some training in integrative psychosyntheis but I am exploring a core process training based on buddhist principles
    Maxine Walden: I would love to hear more about this core process, sounds very interesting
    Ruby Quality: My real love has been archetypal psychology
    Maxine Walden: I do not really know what archetypal psycology is
    Ruby Quality: My head is in a bit of a fog today (I have been ill) but I will send some links
    Ruby Quality: Based on Jung
    Ruby Quality: But my day to day work doesn’t include any of that:(
    Maxine Walden: ok, I do know a little about Jung, have Jungian colleagues
    Ruby Quality: More community development and fundraising
    Maxine Walden: very important functions
    Ruby Quality: Thank you Dakini
    Ruby Quality: Well bit soul destroying
    Maxine Walden: yes, I can really believe the beleaguering aspect of that aspect of community service
    Ruby Quality: It’s all very much based on the medical model of psychiatry
    Dakini: I mentioned that i did some healing based buddhist training
    Dakini: Menla training, with Kristoff Klonck
    Ruby Quality: Yes.. I’d like to hear more about that Dakini
    Maxine Walden: so much output…yes would love to hear more
    Dakini: part of that training is to learn to take care of your … let us say soul… while attending to the needs of others
    Maxine Walden: ah
    Ruby Quality: Interstesting…. I did some training in core energy management that sounds similar
    Dakini: really based on learning to be mindful, compassionate, and develop our capacity to be in a healing space
    Ruby Quality: I must send you a link to William Bloom
    Maxine Walden: taking care of one’s soul…at the heart of things…core energy management?
    Dakini: yes!
    Maxine Walden: oh, yes, mindfulness seems so central to so much of what we do
    Ruby Quality: Oooh al these wonderful possibilities
    Maxine Walden: (perhaps except for fund raising)
    Dakini: anyway, there are delightful possibilities here!
    Maxine Walden: Ruby, you are a ‘Cultivator’ may I ask what that is? Ruby Quality: I think I should open up the heart warrior group for people to develop as they feel is right
    Dakini: Maxine, Ruby and I traded groups:-)
    Dakini: the Cultivator is Pema’s group
    Ruby Quality: Maxine, I have just joined so I don’t know yet but I am looking forward to finding out lol
    Maxine Walden: I know of one Cultivator group here is Sl, wondering if…oh, traded groups, I understand, yes, I was thinking of that
    Dakini: yes, you were a Cultivator at first, now are a Guardian
    Maxine Walden: nice to trade groups…sort of sisterly
    Dakini: o sorry -the Guardian is zen retreat
    Dakini: mixing my groups
    Dakini: yes it is :-)
    Maxine Walden: yes, not a problem, remember wanting to trade clothers with my sister but she and I never wore the same size
    Maxine Walden: clothes
    Dakini: oh my, my 3 sisters and i traded clothes for awhile there
    Dakini: when they were younger, till they grew taller than i
    Maxine Walden: oh, yes,…so interesting I think that sisters have usually very different relationships than brothers with brothers or bros with sisters, might be obvious but is interesting to me
    Dakini: Maxine, i think I have some clothes I could trade with you
    Dakini: in Sl the clothes always fit!
    Maxine Walden: oh, Dakini, that is very nice, but do you know I do not have any clothes except what came with the SL kit as it were; never have bought anything
    Maxine Walden: nothing much to trade
    Dakini: that’s OK Max, i have too many clothes - you can trade some with me when you get more
    Dakini: or maybe trade for your insight :-)
    Maxine Walden: LOL, that is very sweet, that would be an adventure for me, new clothes in SL
    Maxine Walden: from a sister in PaB
    Dakini: oh yes, let’s do it, maybe you can tell me what sort of clothing you like :-)
    Dakini: yes!
    Maxine Walden: well, let me see…usually I wear rather simple things, never have been into fancy things much, but love color and smooth lines…not sure if that gives some idea…
    Dakini: yes, I think it does!
    Ruby Quality: How far do you want to develop your av maxine?
    Dakini: i’ll see what i have that can be transferred…
    Dakini: if you get some inventory offers from Dakini, please “accept” them :-)
    Maxine Walden: you know, I am not sure, as I really am still viewing SL mainly as a vehicle for PaB…so not quite sure how much to develop my avatar
    Dakini: lol you can save yourself lots of time if you don’t ….
    Ruby Quality: When I came to sl I didn’t have any IT skills to speak off
    Ruby Quality: and I was rescused by some vapires who took me under the sl wing
    Maxine Walden: but I will gratefully accept your offerings
    Ruby Quality: I could rez things up and kept getting things stuck in walls
    Maxine Walden: appreciate that Ruby, how long have you been on SL?
    Ruby Quality: They were forever rescuing me. It was a wonderful community lol
    Dakini: rescued by vampires…. that sounds inetersting
    Ruby Quality: all role play. I wss the mythical writer in the Tower lol
    Ruby Quality: Just over a year…
    Maxine Walden: yes, can imagine…rescued by vampires?? ah, mythical writer
    Maxine Walden: there is so much possible fantasy in SL!!
    Ruby Quality: Archetypal vampires..
    Ruby Quality: and lots of warrior stuff. I used to write the rp for the Kings army and he said I was making them soft…
    Ruby Quality: I was giving them heart centred meditations lol
    Maxine Walden: oh, boy, archetypal vampires …such as in Dracula? or something…king’s army? in SL or RL
    Ruby Quality: It was great fun .. I have very fond memories…
    Maxine Walden: the boundaries in our discussions between SL and RL get blurry for me sometimges
    Maxine Walden: sometimes
    Ruby Quality: No.. the vampire archetype is a real archetype, usually adolescent energy..

    While we chatted, the tea service contributed its monologue…

    Cha-No-Yu Japanese Tea Ceremony (Taupe): Please enjoy your ceremonial cup of cha, Ruby Quality-san. Goziemashta arigato.
    Chawan : Mmmm, delicious green cha made in the ceremonial Japanese tradition, Ruby Quality, so refreshing!
    Chawan : Mmm..
    Chawan : Mmm..
    Chawan : Mmm..
    Chawan : Don’t you feel at one with nature now, Ruby Quality so peaceful and relaxed.
    Dakini: Pema claims this tea does not speak good Japanese
    Maxine Walden: what does Pema mean by that, Dakini”
    Dakini: he would correct this tea’s japanese
    Dakini: however, i am unable to do that - i bought the tea service
    Dakini: he must cringe every time he reads it :-)

    So we did finally get around to playasbeing… briefly. I thought to edit out the non-PaB conversation but that would leave this precious short interchange…

    Dakini: oh yes, and I should mention….
    Dakini: this is a meeting of the playasbeing group
    Dakini: we log the chat, and publish it on the group blog
    Dakini: Ruby, is it OK if I log this chat?
    Ruby Quality: If you like lol
    Dakini: (I should have said this earlier)
    Maxine Walden: yes, Dakini, of course
    Dakini: SHould I take out any references to location?
    Ruby Quality: I will brush up my typing lol
    Ruby Quality: Noooo not for me anyway
    Dakini: oh please, you will make me look SOOO bad if your typing is good
    Maxine Walden: not necessary for me
    Dakini: thanks (now, back to the fun part of the program)
    Maxine Walden: you know my conscience comes in and says…oh, maybe we should be talking playasbeing, but in a way we have been doing the playing part
    Dakini: should we have talked about Pab?
    Dakini: haha same thought Max
    Dakini: Pema won’t mind
    Maxine Walden: sisters think the same way sometimes, don’t cha know…

    OK so Pema you had 3 women here this afternoon and we spent our time “bonding”… Can’t you just see us chatting and giggling over our tea?

    Dakini: haha 3 sisters here talking about trading clothes
    Maxine Walden: right
    Dakini: lol
    Maxine Walden: yeh, love it
    Dakini: yeh, youre reminding me to send this link to my RL sisters…
    Maxine Walden: trading clothes, trading groups, and passionate interests
    Dakini: that would be a HOOT!
    Dakini: very nice little group session here this afternoon
    Dakini: or evening as it may be
    Maxine Walden: would it, sounds great, more HOOTs the better
    Dakini: :-)))
    Maxine Walden: my sister and I used to play all sorts of sister games, as kids..makes me smile to think back as we are talking…
    Dakini: aw, that’s a happy memory….
    Maxine Walden: yes, a very happy memory
    Dakini: we played dressup with old clothes in a box…
    Dakini: i would stage theatrical productions in the basement… lol
    Maxine Walden: ahh, makes me smile, old fashioned clothes? big shoes…
    Dakini: yes, old prom dresses…
    Dakini: tiaras and crowns and fairy wands…
    Maxine Walden: what kind of play…oh, prom dresses, super…invite the neighborhood to the plays?
    Dakini: lol not too many were all that interested….
    Maxine Walden: oh, fancy dress, fairies and fairy gogmothers
    Dakini: kind of what we do here in SL….
    Maxine Walden: meant to say godmothers, but like the gogmothers idea as well
    Dakini: lol gogmothers yes
    Maxine Walden: oh, dressup and pretend and such…amidst the fantasies that young girls have
    Dakini: oh yes… so many wings here…
    Maxine Walden: oh, yes…
    Dakini: that must be a bit of an archtype
    Maxine Walden: would think so
    Dakini: maybe that ethereal, free part of us?
    Dakini: with the special healing powers?
    Maxine Walden: this is surely a sisterly chat…including the ethereal too
    Dakini: i’m smiling…
    Maxine Walden: oh yes I am too
    Ruby Quality: I had a brother.. would have loved a sister
    Ruby Quality: I have a sisterhood group in sl tho lol
    Dakini: i always wanted a brother.. but a BIG brother haha
    Maxine Walden: oh, Ruby, sorry you may have felt left out by our discussion…did you have a big brother?
    Ruby Quality: No not at all.. I had an older brother by five years
    Dakini: just like my son and daughter!
    Maxine Walden: oh my, how lovely, Dakini..
    Dakini: yes, but the “big brother” role is not quite what i imagined… haha
    Maxine Walden: oh??
    Dakini: my children are grown now, but in their childhood.. well, let me just say… my daughter developed a champion scream
    Ruby Quality: Older brothers can be torture lol
    Dakini: yes haha
    Maxine Walden: champion scream about all the things her ‘big brother’ did…oh, yeah oh, yeah
    Dakini: she developed such a scream (with his brotherly help) she won a medal for it
    Dakini: haha
    Maxine Walden: I actually had a big brother and a little brother and it was my little brother who hit me with his train!!, he was two and I was 6 yrs old…what kind of medal?
    Dakini: “best screamer” at girls’ camp
    Ruby Quality: That sounds very cool:)
    Maxine Walden: oh, I can see it now…around the camp fire…best screamer…
    Dakini: and got a screaming part in a school concert
    Dakini: haha yes!
    Maxine Walden: LOL\
    Maxine Walden: were you proud at the school concert of her prowess?
    Dakini: Not sure about proud… but it made me smile to think of how that scream was developmed
    Dakini: and happy for her
    Maxine Walden: bet it didm make you smile and yes happy for your daughter…lovely images
    Dakini: oh yes and really how much more interesting to have a solo scream than to play the flute :-)
    Maxine Walden: LOL
    Maxine Walden: one’s own flute, the scream
    Dakini: lol yes and quite unique
    Maxine Walden: indeed, pleased for her, I never did develop a scream…maybe not hit enough by my brother’s train
    Dakini: i’ve loved chatting, and i’m afraid i need to leave…
    Dakini: lol maybe not…
    Maxine Walden: yes, I need to go as well, and this has been a lovely conversation. thank you both
    Dakini: I’ll be away all of tomorrow, but i’ll search my clothing inventory as soon as I can, Maxine
    Ruby Quality: I used to work next to an office that ran a primal scream group.. It was very unnerving
    Dakini: looking for something simple and colorful
    Dakini: wow primal scream
    Dakini: that takes me back to the 70s
    Maxine Walden: nice to have such sisterly talk, oh thank Dakini…very sweet of you,
    Ruby Quality: Tell her her brother saved her years of therapy:P
    Dakini: hahahahahahah!! maybe so
    Ruby Quality: Cut right to the chase lol
    Dakini: o dear i hate to leave
    Ruby Quality: I have to go too…
    Maxine Walden: oh yes!!
    Dakini: thank you for joining us, Ruby
    Ruby Quality: Lovely to talk to you both.
    Dakini: be well, both! :-)
    Maxine Walden: hate to go too, but will, Dakini, you are taking the chatlog? I will go right now to give you time
    Ruby Quality: Maxine if you need any asistance let me know.
    Dakini: i’ll get the log, Max
    Dakini: thanks!
    Maxine Walden: thanks and bye both.

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