2013.09.07 19:00 - One Person's Kindness does not define Kindness

The Guardian for this meeting was stevenaia Michinaga. The comments are by stevenaia Michinaga.

Korel Laloix: Heya
stevenaia Michinaga: hey there
stevenaia Michinaga: how are you, back to school?
Korel Laloix: Yes second wee back in...
Korel Laloix: Good to be in my final semester
stevenaia Michinaga: nice, the end of the begining
Korel Laloix: True.
Korel Laloix: So looking forward to being done.
Korel Laloix: Thesis is done.
Korel Laloix: Just classes this time.
stevenaia Michinaga: I;ve always love Thesis titles, do you have an interesting one?
Korel Laloix: Not really... second one was on funding medical reserach for career women atheletes.
--BELL--
Korel Laloix: It started out pretty simple.. but one of the people on my panel started politicizing it and ruined for me... grrr.. but done now
stevenaia Michinaga: typical, bending things to suit the advisors
Korel Laloix: My advisore was great.. but this one prof coerced her way onto my panel then started being stupid.
stevenaia Michinaga: sounds jsut the the real world, get used to it
stevenaia Michinaga: unfortunately
Korel Laloix: I put her in her place on my defense....
Korel Laloix: But it did make me did quite a bit more.. so I learned more.
stevenaia Michinaga: I was once chair of this quite large yet very reasonable committee to re-write a local zoning ordanance, which was great until 6 months beofre completion someone insisted on being on the committe who's only point was to undo everything unless it included everything he wanted
stevenaia Michinaga: eventually , due to budget reasons his additions were not possible at that late stage, but he did make it dificult
Korel Laloix: This was essentially that.
Korel Laloix: She wanted to make sure that my paper reflected her political views.
stevenaia Michinaga: well there is something to get out of that, understanding even if you disagree
Korel Laloix: It was bad.. but it is done.
stevenaia Michinaga: which brings us to tonights topic of Intentions of Kindness
Santoshima Resident: 's current display-name is "San".
stevenaia Michinaga: one person's kindness (the advisor's) can be another's pain
stevenaia Michinaga: well I guess no one thought of it as kindness except her
Korel Laloix: No.. I dont think that was the case.. i think she actually wanted to do harm.
Korel Laloix: But not sure.. she is a bit crazy.. but tenured.
Santoshima Resident: hello

--BELL--

Korel Laloix: Bozho San.
stevenaia Michinaga: hi San
stevenaia Michinaga: wow, that look suits you nicely
Santoshima Resident: hmm, looks a little chilly ... needs a cardigan
Korel Laloix: I a liking it as well... smiles
Santoshima Resident: ty
Korel Laloix: The whip is nice...
Korel Laloix: brb
Santoshima Resident: ty, sstarting work again after the weekend
Santoshima Resident: need to get in the right state of mind
stevenaia Michinaga: lol, teacher? w/ whip
Santoshima Resident: :)
Santoshima Resident: it's for me, to crack down
Santoshima Resident: on meself
Korel Laloix: Do you take suggestions for other to crack down on?
Korel Laloix: Out of kindess of course... smiles
Santoshima Resident: hmm, possibly
stevenaia Michinaga: lol
stevenaia Michinaga: ponders kindness to yourself
Santoshima Resident: yeah what does that look like
stevenaia Michinaga: never thought of that
Santoshima Resident: what does a caring attitude look like
Santoshima Resident: if you were to draw it
Korel Laloix: Depends on if you have a whip or not.
Santoshima Resident: :)
Korel Laloix smiles
stevenaia Michinaga: hehe, perhaps compassion is kindness
Korel Laloix: I have a hard time with the definition of kindness.
stevenaia Michinaga: perhaps you should redefine it
stevenaia Michinaga: what would you define it as?
Korel Laloix: Not sure... is it a good will act or expression down with no expecation of benifit?
Korel Laloix: done
Korel Laloix: Or is it giving something they need even if they don't want it?
stevenaia Michinaga: I like the 1st one better
Korel Laloix: But I like both..
Korel Laloix: brb
stevenaia Michinaga: I suppose your advisor acted on both
Santoshima Resident: missed that part of the chat
Korel Laloix: Not sure really... trying to understand when people have done things to me.
Korel Laloix: Find a way to see if they meant them as kindness.
Korel Laloix: Even if I was not OK with it at the time.
Korel Laloix: Back in a min... frowns
Santoshima Resident: ok,
stevenaia Michinaga: those are the lessons learned only long after the "act"
Santoshima Resident: percolate
stevenaia Michinaga: Korel poofs..

Santoshima Resident: hmm
Santoshima Resident: hope you don't mind ...
stevenaia Michinaga: interesting colar
Santoshima Resident: need to try a few fashion ideas out
stevenaia Michinaga: :)
Santoshima Resident: and here seems as good a place as any
stevenaia Michinaga: nods

--BELL--

Santoshima Resident: ok, enough of that
Santoshima Resident: how are you?
Santoshima Resident: still festive?
stevenaia Michinaga: good, noce to be w/o family for a bit, we had 18 ppl over for dinner on thursday
Santoshima Resident: wow
Santoshima Resident: did you cook?
stevenaia Michinaga: jsut finished the leftovers today
stevenaia Michinaga: not me, spouse
Santoshima Resident: bless her
stevenaia Michinaga: I do dishes
Santoshima Resident: bless you
stevenaia Michinaga: hehe
Santoshima Resident: { these back row cushions are quite far apart, i notice ...}
stevenaia Michinaga: yes, haven't sat here in a while
Santoshima Resident: nice to have visitors for festive occasions, then nice to have them go
Santoshima Resident: {imp}
stevenaia Michinaga: yes
Santoshima Resident: {mind if i work on some hair ideas?}
Santoshima Resident: :)
stevenaia Michinaga: I would love to se
stevenaia Michinaga: e
Santoshima Resident: hmm, we'll see
Santoshima Resident: i'll mention, as I'm wondering whether this happens for youj lately.
Santoshima Resident: when i log in using Firestorm it crashes
Santoshima Resident: i discovered, in a moment when it allowed me to look briefly before crashing, that it is changing to ULTRA qulaity in graphics.
Santoshima Resident: Far beyond when i set
stevenaia Michinaga: no, not for a while, but I usually quit everything else and it still sucked my processors up to 70%
Santoshima Resident: and far beyond what my computer grahic card can handle
Santoshima Resident: ok, reading
Santoshima Resident: {i lok at keys when typing ... will catch up}
Santoshima Resident: hmm,
Santoshima Resident: this development is not usual
Santoshima Resident: the changing of the graphics level quality
stevenaia Michinaga: I don;t think I changed my graphic settings, how much Graphis Ram do you have?
Santoshima Resident: i didn't change the setting
Santoshima Resident: Firestorm is doing that
Santoshima Resident: and crashing as a result
Santoshima Resident: 4
Santoshima Resident: i think 4 gb
Santoshima Resident: let me check
stevenaia Michinaga: not RAM, Ram in your graphics card, I ahve 512 MB
Santoshima Resident: oh, sorry
stevenaia Michinaga: np
Santoshima Resident: 6 gb ram
Santoshima Resident: where do i look for the graphics card?
stevenaia Michinaga: nice, but I only have a 15" screen on my laptop
Santoshima Resident: this is also
stevenaia Michinaga: about this mac
Santoshima Resident: called what?
stevenaia Michinaga: under more info
Santoshima Resident: yes, i know
Santoshima Resident: is it just called graphic card memory, or ?
Santoshima Resident: never mind, found it
stevenaia Michinaga: should say after it lists your graphics card type
Santoshima Resident: vram?
stevenaia Michinaga: nods
Santoshima Resident: 256
Santoshima Resident: a little dino saur
stevenaia Michinaga: that may be part of it, my spouse has a sony laptop and not enough vram to run SL
Santoshima Resident: drag
stevenaia Michinaga: no backup for me
Santoshima Resident: i can run if lowest graphics
Santoshima Resident: but, as i mentioned, firestorm is messing with that
Santoshima Resident: still looking for hair ... here's a chair you can try
stevenaia Michinaga: are you member of the Macintosh SL group, they are alsys happy to find answers to questions
Santoshima Resident: hmm, good idea
Santoshima Resident: i will join asap
stevenaia Michinaga: it's on my groups list

--BELL--

stevenaia Michinaga: looks like yoga sitting
stevenaia Michinaga: interesting hair
stevenaia Michinaga: liking it
stevenaia Michinaga: being called away, thanks for stopping by
Santoshima Resident: ok, bfn