2013.03.29 07:00 - Fall in Love with Yourself

The Guardian for this meeting was druth Vlodovic. The comments are by druth Vlodovic.

--BELL--
Arisia Vita: greetings
Catrinamonblue Resident: Good Morning Ari :)
Arisia Vita: two lovely friends...
Catrinamonblue Resident: ty :)
druth Vlodovic: ari!
druth Vlodovic: yayyy!
Arisia Vita: :)
druth Vlodovic: things get weird when it's just the two of us
Catrinamonblue Resident: lol :)
Arisia Vita: :)
druth Vlodovic: karate nav'i
Arisia Vita: just a simple robe to relax in
druth Vlodovic: yellow is the third belt yes?
Arisia Vita: not sure
druth Vlodovic: ah, bathrobe :)
Arisia Vita: never did Karate
Catrinamonblue Resident: :)
Arisia Vita: right, simple robe

Arisia Vita: some Kung Fu wisdom...
Arisia Vita:

Disciple: We learn to make powerful the force of our bodies. Yet, we are taught to reverence all against whom we may use such force.

Master: When your life is threatened or the innocent life of another, you will be prepared to defend them. Disciple: Being thus prepared better than others, should I not always stand and fight?

Master: Ignore the insulting tongue. Duck the provoking blow. Run from the assault of the strong.

Disciple: Are these not the actions of a coward?

Master: The wild boar runs from the tiger knowing that each being well armed by nature with deadly strength may kill the other. Running he saves his own life and that of the tiger. This is not cowardice. It is the love of life.

druth Vlodovic: I was told that they used to toughen up their hands by running their belt through them,over time they'd get pretty grimy
druth Vlodovic: introduce bleach and suddenly everyone is a beginner again
druth Vlodovic: running is also a skill :)
Arisia Vita: one which more should practice :)
Arisia Vita:

Disciple: Master, do we seek victory in contention?

Master: Seek rather not to contend.

Disciple: But shall we not then be defeated?

Master: We know that where there is no contention, there is neither defeat nor victory. The supple willow does not contend against the storm, yet it survives.

Catrinamonblue Resident: bend in the wind :)
Arisia Vita: good way to put it
Catrinamonblue Resident: to stand tall after the storm

druth Vlodovic:

"Anyone can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree,at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy." Aristotle, The Nichomachean Ethics

Arisia Vita: ty druth!
druth Vlodovic: interesting to see the same thing said by many people in many ways
druth Vlodovic: in the end we are all human
szavanna Resident: hi Druthy, Cat and Ari
druth Vlodovic: hi sunshine
szavanna Resident: °͜°
Lightbo Kondor: nice, to see again Ari
szavanna Resident: I brought a guest
Arisia Vita: welcome
druth Vlodovic: hi guest :)
Lightbo Kondor: haha,
Arisia Vita: pls join us Lightbo
szavanna Resident: hehe
druth Vlodovic: has he been warned?
Catrinamonblue Resident: Hi Sun :)
szavanna Resident: not yet lol
szavanna Resident: he needs to be warned
szavanna Resident: °͜°
Lightbo Kondor: tell me
druth Vlodovic: we record everything you say for posterity
Arisia Vita: I prefer the word welcomed
Arisia Vita: properly
Catrinamonblue Resident: :)
druth Vlodovic: I'll give you a notecard
szavanna Resident: giggles
druth Vlodovic: we need your ok to do it though
szavanna Resident: we publish our chats on the internet
Lightbo Kondor: oh.....
szavanna Resident: so we need to ask you if that is ok
druth Vlodovic: you can, dun dun dun GOOGLE THEM!!!!
szavanna Resident: dun dun dun ;o)

Arisia Vita: just follow The Rules... Live Simply Love generously Care deeply Speak kindly

Lightbo Kondor: ok, then words will be said more energy
druth Vlodovic: it's ok to say no
szavanna Resident: Ari °͜°
druth Vlodovic: I'll just call you "bick" or something
druth Vlodovic: I scared him off :(
Catrinamonblue Resident: no he just moved :)
szavanna Resident: giggles
--BELL--
Lightbo Kondor: I just find I　sit like women, change now is better
Arisia Vita: the sit pose can be changed
Arisia Vita: just touch the cushion

druth Vlodovic: we were talking about using moods and force appropriately
szavanna Resident: hi mr Zap °͜°
druth Vlodovic: "ego power" :)
druth Vlodovic: hi eos
Catrinamonblue Resident: Hi Eos :)
Eos Amaterasu: hi gang!
szavanna Resident: °͜°
szavanna Resident: hmm good topic
druth Vlodovic: somebody just gave me a nc called "trust and acceptance of yourself and your power"
druth Vlodovic: we don't need to be no-self if we trust the self
druth Vlodovic: or perhaps we learn to trust the self by cultivating no-self ;-/

Eos Amaterasu: what are you trusting in when you trust the self?
Catrinamonblue Resident: can you pass the nc around or post it here?
szavanna Resident: ponders
druth Vlodovic: I haven't read it yet, but sure, if anyone wants it
szavanna Resident: send me pls
Eos Amaterasu: me too, pls
druth Vlodovic: trusting our prejudices and instincts I would guess
Lightbo Kondor: me too, thanks
Eos Amaterasu: hmm, to me it feels like a capacity to respond
Eos Amaterasu: both on my part and on that of the world
szavanna Resident: hi Agaji °͜°
Lightbo Kondor: I am satisfied with deep truth and real love
Eos Amaterasu: trust the open space between me and the world and encompassing both
Agatha Macbeth: Afternoon everyone :0
Catrinamonblue Resident: Hi Agatha :)
szavanna Resident: :)
Eos Amaterasu: Hi Ags
Lightbo Kondor: hello
druth Vlodovic: hi ags
szavanna Resident: open space between me and the world °͜°
szavanna Resident: hi sedona °͜°
druth Vlodovic: hi sedona, is it ok if we record you?
Eos Amaterasu: big open savanna :-)
szavanna Resident: mmm lotsa space
Lightbo Kondor: hi, sedona
Sedona Bluemood: Yes, Of Course ♥
Sedona Bluemood: Hugs Everyone ♥
szavanna Resident: hugs :)
Agatha Macbeth hugs back
Catrinamonblue Resident: Welcome Sedona :)
Lightbo Kondor: Hugs ^^

druth Vlodovic: we're discussing self-trust
druth Vlodovic: I've always had the fear that I would hurt others unless I stepped carefully
druth Vlodovic: then I started offending others by stepping too carefully
druth Vlodovic: now it seems everything is determined by arbitrary balance
Agatha Macbeth: It's best to take people as you find them Druthy
Eos Amaterasu: maybe like riding a bike
druth Vlodovic: and let others take me as they find me :)
szavanna Resident: thats the trick about life ....to balance each moment as it comes
Agatha Macbeth: Indeed
Eos Amaterasu: accept the feedback as it is
druth Vlodovic: putting fulcrums where they are most fun

szavanna Resident: when I had the opencafe ... everytime someone came - I tried to figure out what that person needs
szavanna Resident: and carried on till he/she was smiling
Eos Amaterasu: pulled out a fulcrum for them
Agatha Macbeth: Is it fulcrums or fulcra?
szavanna Resident: or tried °͜°
Agatha Macbeth: Not sure
druth Vlodovic: hmm, I found success by stopping myself from figuring out what people need
druth Vlodovic: in some ways it is paternalistic, which is a good thing to it's own extent

druth Vlodovic: but can be a negative thing as well
Sedona Bluemood: Smiles @ Druth ♥
Eos Amaterasu: maybe responding to rather than figuring out
Catrinamonblue Resident: people will tell you what they need if you let them, no need to drain yourself trying to figure them out
Lightbo Kondor: ya, sunshine, feeling, energy reading
szavanna Resident: yes responding is better
Eos Amaterasu: each person's weather affects the room
druth Vlodovic: if they know you are trying to figure them out they often feel it is "creepy" :)
szavanna Resident: I kept it a big secret hehe
Eos Amaterasu peers into druth's mind
druth Vlodovic: eek!
szavanna Resident: ;D
druth Vlodovic: poor eos
Catrinamonblue Resident: I just take people at face value
szavanna Resident: counter eek ;0)
Eos Amaterasu: ack!
Sedona Bluemood: lol
szavanna Resident: hehe
druth Vlodovic: you'll recover, I do
Catrinamonblue Resident: Wind and cobwebs are all that to be seen in Druths mind :)
Catrinamonblue Resident: the nothing box
druth Vlodovic: puh, nothing like the sweet support of friends
--BELL--
Lightbo Kondor: sweet support of friends
Catrinamonblue Resident: didn't mean that to sound that sharp Druth sry

druth Vlodovic: np  :)

druth Vlodovic: how would you go about figuring out what people needed sun?
szavanna Resident: hmm I would just go by their responses
szavanna Resident: if they seem happy
szavanna Resident: I continue with whatever I did
szavanna Resident: or test new things and see if they smile
szavanna Resident: or something
szavanna Resident: ;p
Agatha Macbeth: Or something...
szavanna Resident: its quite a challenge since everyone comes from different background
szavanna Resident: color, culture, religion
Arisia Vita: and what about the quiet ones? :)
szavanna Resident: very colorful here
szavanna Resident: quiet ones love to be quiet
szavanna Resident: so I don't bother them much hehe
Arisia Vita: One of the tasks of true friendship is to listen compassionately and creatively to the hidden silences. Often secrets are not revealed in words, they lie concealed in the silence between the words or in the depth of what is unsayable between two people. - John O'Donohue
Lightbo Kondor: yes, long story for each different one, even u can say colorful
szavanna Resident: hmm I enjoyed it ...did it for almost 10 years
szavanna Resident: and I still continue ..just not officially
szavanna Resident: nice Ari :))
druth Vlodovic: funny how the knowledge that you can never truly know someone can make them easier to deal with
Lightbo Kondor: Ari singing
szavanna Resident: everyday is different
Catrinamonblue Resident: easier in what way Druth?
szavanna Resident: so you can never settle for one specific thing for one person
druth Vlodovic: it makes mistakes inevitable, so you learn not to make disasters of errors
druth Vlodovic: or try to :)
Catrinamonblue Resident: over reactions?
druth Vlodovic: "try not to see errors as disasters"
Eos Amaterasu: we are more potentials ways of being rather than some fixed thing: 'tis what life is, neh?
Arisia Vita: see them as opportunities to learn
Lightbo Kondor: Ari...the deep truth and real love.....healing us deeply
Lightbo Kondor: like u just singing about
Catrinamonblue Resident: If you do not trust and accept yourself and your power, you will not share with your human self the elements that produce oneness and success, you will not let it in.
Catrinamonblue Resident: from the nc
druth Vlodovic: falling in love with others, and your self
Sedona Bluemood: yes!
Lightbo Kondor: ya.....
druth Vlodovic: love, acceptance, trust and openess
druth Vlodovic: sedona is the one who gave me the nc btw
Eos Amaterasu: trust in the light (Veritas Lux Mea)
Sedona Bluemood: Saturday I will be hosting a blogtalk radio show on this topic.. Please feel welcome to join us......
druth Vlodovic: link?
Sedona Bluemood: I am setting that up ATM.....But i can share the FB and website link for now..
szavanna Resident: sounds interesting Sedona
Sedona Bluemood: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Just-Fall-In-Love-With-Yourself/139359779468384?ref=hl
Sedona Bluemood: and http://justfallinlovewithyourself.com/
Catrinamonblue Resident: ty Sedona :)
druth Vlodovic: I haven't been to your sim in a while
Lightbo Kondor: nice
Sedona Bluemood: I closed my sim about a month ago..... I do log into sl weekly to send out note cards and visit friends ♥
Agatha Macbeth: Aww
druth Vlodovic: ah well, times change and growth results
Sedona Bluemood: yes, very true.....
druth Vlodovic: so we can contemplate self-love during the pause :)
--BELL--
Catrinamonblue Resident: trust yourself to know yourself and accept yourself for who you are. Change is inevitable, trust that change is good, change is everyday as we learn and grow and love and accept.
szavanna Resident: nice website Sedona °͜°
Sedona Bluemood: Thank you....It's a work in progress...lol
szavanna Resident:
szavanna Resident: Raye ♥
TheRachelRaye Resident: ❤
druth Vlodovic: was contemplating self-love and realized that I used to rely on pride,which is a form of self-love that doesn't admit of mistakes, acceptance is a better form perhaps
druth Vlodovic: hi raye
druth Vlodovic: we're discussing self-love, self acceptance, courage etc etc,all related things
TheRachelRaye Resident: Hello :3
TheRachelRaye Resident: wonderful subject
druth Vlodovic: :)
Eos Amaterasu: hard to fall in love with "just" yourself, though?
druth Vlodovic: love your av btw
Eos Amaterasu: what about cinammon?
Catrinamonblue Resident: I have always like the little say "I am me in all my infinite varieties"
Catrinamonblue Resident: saying*
Eos Amaterasu: cinnamon
Agatha Macbeth prefers paprika
szavanna Resident: paprika is great °͜°
Catrinamonblue Resident: cinnamon on toast with sugar mmmmmmm
Agatha Macbeth: This is true
druth Vlodovic: I suspect that loving yourself exclusively would suggest false love, likely based in self-loathing or fear
Eos Amaterasu: self is we, trillions of organism, we are family, my brothers and my sisters and me
druth Vlodovic: paprika on cinnamon toast?
Agatha Macbeth: Why not?
Eos Amaterasu is smelling and feeling a stick of cinnamon
szavanna Resident: :)
Agatha Macbeth: Calm down E
szavanna Resident: hehe
Eos Amaterasu: :-)
druth Vlodovic: interesting, I'll have to carry a stick around myself
druth Vlodovic: maybe a lapel pin
Eos Amaterasu adds cinnamon stick to grocery list
Catrinamonblue Resident: :)
TheRachelRaye Resident: its great for steeping in milk too.
Catrinamonblue Resident: "What does the issue of trust mean to you? What aspect of self lacks in trust?"
Catrinamonblue Resident: again from the nc :)
druth Vlodovic: fear of consequences I'd think
Catrinamonblue Resident: what consequences?
Catrinamonblue Resident: are they real or just what you imagine?
Catrinamonblue Resident: do you know they will happen? what if they don't? you never know till you try is a motto of mine :)
Sedona Bluemood: Wishing everyone a beautiful day..... Sending hugs all around.. rl is calling.....Mwahhhh..
TheRachelRaye Resident: See you Sedona
druth Vlodovic: have fun sedona
szavanna Resident: take care Sedona °͜°
Catrinamonblue Resident: Bye Sedona ty for coming :)
Eos Amaterasu: ~~
Agatha Macbeth: Bye
Lightbo Kondor: bye Sedona
Lightbo Kondor: nice to hear u today
--BELL--
Sedona Bluemood: blows kisses....♥ ty for having me♥
Agatha Macbeth: Bye for now
Eos Amaterasu: Thanks and ciao!
druth Vlodovic: topof the hour
Catrinamonblue Resident: Bye Agatha, Eos :)
druth Vlodovic: thanks for joining us light
druth Vlodovic: catch you all later :)
Lightbo Kondor: thanks
szavanna Resident: I must go also - preparing for my PaB party
szavanna Resident: thats why I am so distracted
szavanna Resident: °͜°
Arisia Vita: alas, rl is calling me too...
Catrinamonblue Resident: Bye Sun :)
Arisia Vita: it was great being with you all
Catrinamonblue Resident: Bye Ari :)
szavanna Resident: will send a mail about it °͜°
Lightbo Kondor: bye sunshine....
Arisia Vita: be well and happy
Catrinamonblue Resident: :)
szavanna Resident: hugs all enjoy Easter time
Catrinamonblue Resident: I guess I'll be off too then
szavanna Resident: °͜°
Arisia Vita: :)
Catrinamonblue Resident: :)
Lightbo Kondor: ^^