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    The Guardian for this meeting was Xirana Oximoxi. The comments are by Xirana Oximoxi.

    Zon Kwan: hi xirana
    Xirana Oximoxi: hello Zon!
    Xirana Oximoxi: :)
    Zon Kwan: how are you
    Xirana Oximoxi: i'm a little sleepy:)) I've put the wake up to come to take the log of this session :))
    Zon Kwan: ah
    Xirana Oximoxi: in Sapin we have lunch quite late and now is siesta time:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: how are you?
    Zon Kwan: good
    Xirana Oximoxi: Spain*
    Zon Kwan: have i seen you before here ?
    Xirana Oximoxi: well I think so:) not very oft but time to time we have met
    Zon Kwan: nods, not been here very often lately
    Xirana Oximoxi: no problem:)

    Zon Kwan: are there nowadays some topics for these sessions
    Xirana Oximoxi: pab activities and subjects are very alive...
    Zon Kwan: or do people just chat what they like
    Xirana Oximoxi: I am not aware of which subject was proposed for this week... but I think they/ we chat spontanously and the serious matters are concentrated on Theme sessions
    Xirana Oximoxi: about relations between science and spirituality
    Xirana Oximoxi: and how can our experience here in PaB become more scientific
    Zon Kwan: nods..i was here when the idea of subjects was discussed
    Xirana Oximoxi: to tell the truth I just have read some of the first sessions and also emails to the group
    Zon Kwan: ah
    Zon Kwan: interesting ?
    Xirana Oximoxi: the sessions take place during my night
    Xirana Oximoxi: yes, I think so... it's interesting but also as we are a very diverse group of people, I see that the wonder to get more scientific results of our meetings maybe is not general
    Zon Kwan: nods
    Xirana Oximoxi: for some/ me included, coming here and listening is also interesting
    Zon Kwan: yes
    Xirana Oximoxi: and a good experience
    Zon Kwan: been here irregularly, but always nice to talk
    Xirana Oximoxi: yes, I agree...

     

    Zon Kwan: what are you mostly interested of
    Xirana Oximoxi: I'm mostly interesed in Art and literature...and I enjoy learning languages...I'm finishing my studies on Linguisitcs :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: and about art...I have a lot of fun here..exhibiting and also visiting other artist's works
    Xirana Oximoxi: I think SL is a very specially attractive place for artists:)
    Zon Kwan: nods..very creative place
    Xirana Oximoxi: I'll show you a picture to see if you recognise who it is:)
    --BELL--
    Zon Kwan: hm
    Xirana Oximoxi: moment... I look for one more easy:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: the other one was Wol:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: do you know him?
    Zon Kwan: yes
    Zon Kwan: or her
    Xirana Oximoxi: ok:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: ah yes..or her:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: this was boxy:)

     

    Xirana Oximoxi: what are your interests?
    Xirana Oximoxi: hello Zen:) bonjour!
    Zen Arado: bonjour Xirana, Zon
    Xirana Oximoxi: we are talking about our main interests
    Xirana Oximoxi: for me Art, literature..learning languages...
    Zon Kwan: zen man,,,,,
    Zen Arado: c'est tranquil aujourd'hui
    Zon Kwan: heya
    Xirana Oximoxi: oui:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: summer and weekend...lazy day
    Xirana Oximoxi: :)

    Zon Kwan: i ma interested in truth

    Xirana Oximoxi: I've herd you speking French today...you are improving really quick, Zen:)
    Zen Arado: Zon is interested in spirituality
    Zen Arado: merci ;)
    Zen Arado: duolingo is good
    Xirana Oximoxi: oh! interesting topic Zon...so difficult to find out sometimes
    Xirana Oximoxi: or to 'delimit'


    Zen Arado: what is truth?


    Zon Kwan: asked Pilatus
    Zen Arado: somebody said that before
    Zen Arado: :)
    Zon Kwan: lol
    Zen Arado: Pontius Pilate
    Zon Kwan: or should i say im interested in lies
    Zon Kwan: because they hide it
    Zon Kwan: exposing lies
    Xirana Oximoxi: both are related, maybe?
    Zon Kwan: nods
    Zen Arado: opposite to truth is lies?
    Zen Arado: lies are truth hidden or changed
    Zon Kwan: like that
    Zen Arado: ?
    Xirana Oximoxi: not sure Zen..that's why I have said 'maybe'... we can understand the 'truth' in a more universal way
    Xirana Oximoxi: or state
    Zon Kwan: not truth without lie
    Zen Arado: in a univeral way there is no truth
    Zen Arado: onlu consensus

    Zen Arado: yes all dualities need their opposite

    Zon Kwan: i always mix truth and reality
    Zen Arado: no light without dark
    Xirana Oximoxi: do we always need to learn about things related or using the duality of bad/good, truth/lies?
    Xirana Oximoxi: ok
    Zen Arado: no because they are just a way of splitting reality in two
    Zon Kwan: mm
    Zen Arado: just what we humans do
    Xirana Oximoxi: yes
    Zen Arado: because it is useful
    Zon Kwan: i am also interested in sin
    Zen Arado: only description
    Zen Arado: a Christian concept
    Xirana Oximoxi: but 'reality' maybe is not so clearly separated...
    Xirana Oximoxi: yes... usefull way to try to understand the world and our conceptions
    Zon Kwan: yes but in buddhism too
    Zen Arado: like we have a good part and a bad part and good part has to conquer bad
    Zon Kwan: mara


    Zon Kwan: but what is good


    Zen Arado: yes..in Buddhist literature
    Zen Arado: Hi boxy
    --BELL--
    Alfred Kelberry: xiri girl :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: hi boxy! :)
    Alfred Kelberry: purr
    Alfred Kelberry: *boop*
    Xirana Oximoxi: :)
    Alfred Kelberry: hi guys
    Zon Kwan: hi alfred
    Alfred Kelberry: oh, someone told me you made a portrait of woly! is it true, xiri?
    Xirana Oximoxi: yes...and I've thought it was the last one I do..because it's too difficult...but she has told me she liked it and to go on with more pabbers:)
    Alfred Kelberry: yes, please! do go on! :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: a portrait is a matters of milimeters...
    Zen Arado: good idea ;)
    Alfred Kelberry: this is an awesome idea :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: and my way of painting is a little more wild
    Alfred Kelberry: can you show it to us? :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: well...as she has liked I suppose there's no problem:)
    Alfred Kelberry: yay!
    Alfred Kelberry: wow! amazing!
    Alfred Kelberry: woly girl!
    Xirana Oximoxi: do you recognise her?
    Alfred Kelberry: i love it, xiri
    Alfred Kelberry: it is her!
    Xirana Oximoxi: ok:)
    Alfred Kelberry: clear as day :)
    Zen Arado: he he great
    Zen Arado: :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: I hope not the 60 members of PaB want a portrait:))
    Alfred Kelberry: damn, you artsy people are magical :)
    Zon Kwan: nods
    Zen Arado: I never look closely at avs so don't know if it a good likeness
    Alfred Kelberry: hehe
    Alfred Kelberry: and portrait of aga? is it approved by her? :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: I find more interesting to draw rl expressions...but it's also special the way we show each one here
    Zen Arado: hmmm I was thinking I would like to do some figures
    Zen Arado: groups
    Xirana Oximoxi: each one has also a personality
    Zen Arado: could take photos of ppl in SL
    Alfred Kelberry: zen, paint avs you mean?
    Zen Arado: yeh
    Alfred Kelberry: great!
    Alfred Kelberry: go for it :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: yes...!! great!
    Zen Arado: but as a group
    Zen Arado: good practice
    Alfred Kelberry: thank you, xiri. beautiful work.
    Xirana Oximoxi: yw:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: if I do more I am sure I will improve:)
    Xirana Oximoxi: maybe:)

     

    Xirana Oximoxi: it can be interesting to hear about what boxy'scientific mind think is 'truth' :))
    Xirana Oximoxi: the topic we have started to talk
    Zen Arado: my mouth looks daft
    Alfred Kelberry: thank you, i'll pass on that :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: ohh ok :((
    Zon Kwan: i wanted to know what is good ?
    Xirana Oximoxi: :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: if you mean 'good' as a general concept I suppose we really need 'bad' to understand it...and it may change depending on each culture, person...
    Xirana Oximoxi: Zen...you look very handsome...don't worry!! :)
    Zon Kwan: how does one define in everyday situation what is good or bad ?
    Zen Arado: ty Xiri but my mouth still looks funny
    Zon Kwan: to walk against red ligth or not
    Zen Arado: by societal consessus
    Zon Kwan: hm
    Zen Arado: consensus
    Xirana Oximoxi: in everyday situation we relate it to the values of our society
    Zen Arado: yes
    Zon Kwan: ir doesnt work in nazi germany
    Xirana Oximoxi: the one we have born
    Zen Arado: a different consessus
    Zon Kwan: concensus was bad
    Zen Arado: morals values keep changing
    Zon Kwan: so individuall cannot refer to that
    Alfred Kelberry: i sense eliza's presence in sl :)
    Zen Arado: they did things 200 years ago we think bad now
    Zon Kwan: and if you cant refer to that there, itss not universal
    --BELL--
    Zen Arado: relative to times
    Zen Arado: Hi Eliza ;)
    Zon Kwan: yes but my point is you caanot refer to society to define good act alone
    Xirana Oximoxi: we do refer to that the way we have been educated in these values...but we change and also learn about other cultures
    Alfred Kelberry: hi :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: hi Eliza:)
    Zon Kwan: somtimes you must act differently to change thinking
    Zon Kwan: hi eliza :)
    Eliza Madrigal: :) Hi Zen, Boxy, Zon, Xxiri, Bell :)
    Alfred Kelberry: :)
    Zon Kwan: jesus was not very good in jewish society
    Xirana Oximoxi: we are talking about 'truth', 'good' ... how we do to know what this terms mean
    Alfred Kelberry: how are your kids, eliza?
    Eliza Madrigal: oh, good topic
    Zen Arado: yes...every now and then someone comes along and tells people they need to change
    Zon Kwan: and how does he know
    Eliza Madrigal: Kids are fine today ... son not thrilled to be doing math work already this morning but, well :)
    Zon Kwan: that this is good to do
    Alfred Kelberry: eh, poor kid :)
    Eliza Madrigal: :)
    Zen Arado: he is persuasive...or society is ready for change
    Zen Arado: poor boy :(
    Alfred Kelberry: eliza, demanding mom? :)
    Zon Kwan: hitler was persuasive
    Zon Kwan: and germany was ready for change
    Zen Arado: in the UK you could bee put in prison for being gay
    Eliza Madrigal: not enough probably, Boxy :)
    Zen Arado: only 50 years ago
    Zon Kwan: nods
    Zen Arado: exactlt Zon
    Zen Arado: Weimar republic was collapsing
    Zon Kwan: so i cant rely on society values in defining if my act is good or not
    Zen Arado: sounds like Kant
    Zon Kwan: just wondering
    Zon Kwan: how do i know then
    Zen Arado: makes you realize there is no right or wrong except what we decide
    Zon Kwan: hm
    Alfred Kelberry: zon, give us an example
    Zon Kwan: dont like that either
    Zon Kwan: i cant just do anything
    Zen Arado: well it seems the way it is
    Zon Kwan: and call i t good
    Zon Kwan: hm
    Zon Kwan: then nothing matters
    Zen Arado: why call an action anything
    Zen Arado: ?
    Alfred Kelberry: :)
    Zen Arado: no that's nihilism
    Zon Kwan: well if there is no good and bad
    Xirana Oximoxi: you can do Zon...but if the society does not accept it as good you can be punished...so the rules are stablished even if they are changing all time
    Zon Kwan: what matters
    Zen Arado: you will do what you will do
    Zen Arado: because of who you are
    Zon Kwan: hm
    Zon Kwan: thats fatalism ?
    Zen Arado: because of the way you have been brought up
    Zen Arado: enculturated
    Zon Kwan: no free will ?
    Alfred Kelberry: nihilists end up either in a mental penitentiary or outcasts off the grid :)
    Zen Arado: free will but not as an individual
    Xirana Oximoxi: we have limites free will :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: limited*
    Zen Arado: as part of the flow of everything else
    Zon Kwan: hm
    Zen Arado: everything happens because of everthing that happens
    Zon Kwan: is goodness then a collective experience ?
    Zen Arado: it's only if you think you aree an isolated individual that it is a problem
    Zon Kwan: must go , waves
    Zen Arado: goodness is only a description
    Zen Arado: byee Zon
    Eliza Madrigal waves and sips coffee
    Eliza Madrigal: how did this conversation start? Romney vp candidate?
    Zen Arado: how do I get myself into these deep issues?
    Xirana Oximoxi: bye bye Zon! :) have a nice time
    Zen Arado: ;)
    Eliza Madrigal: :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: no, Zon has told he was interested in 'truth' :)
    Eliza Madrigal: ooh
    Xirana Oximoxi: so...the conversation has run into the duality of concepts...and so on:)
    Zen Arado: yeh

     

    Xirana Oximoxi: Eliza...what's this wonderful hat?
    Eliza Madrigal: ah, sorry to be so late : )
    Xirana Oximoxi: have you done it? you come from a party?
    Xirana Oximoxi: np:)
    Eliza Madrigal: ooh, this was passed along by Bleu from an exhibit at LEA, one moment will give LM
    Xirana Oximoxi: topics are never exhausted in one session...and either in all the years of humnity asking and looking for answers:)
    Zen Arado: I forgot about that
    Xirana Oximoxi: ahh it's nice..ty:)
    Eliza Madrigal: looking for better and better questions
    Eliza Madrigal: and ways to puzzle together
    --BELL--
    Alfred Kelberry: love despite a hurricane: http://i.imgur.com/RgxzZ.jpg
    Alfred Kelberry: :)
    Eliza Madrigal: :)
    Eliza Madrigal: the hats are like a game :))
    Xirana Oximoxi: wonderful:))
    Xirana Oximoxi: nice foto boxy!! :)
    Alfred Kelberry: :)
    Eliza Madrigal: is it? should I look?
    Eliza Madrigal: :)
    Alfred Kelberry: up to you :)
    Eliza Madrigal: hehe... okay... looking...
    Eliza Madrigal: sweet :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: have you taken it?
    Alfred Kelberry: no, never been to china
    Alfred Kelberry: well, once as a kid
    Alfred Kelberry: can't remember much
    Eliza Madrigal: have pictures? : )
    Alfred Kelberry: yes :)
    Alfred Kelberry: um, in private family albums :)
    Eliza Madrigal: :)
    Eliza Madrigal: well we must have found truth --- silence
    Xirana Oximoxi: I must go now....have a nice day all!! and see you soon!
    Zen Arado: :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: :)
    Eliza Madrigal: bye Xiri, nice to see you
    Zen Arado: kk byee Xiri
    Alfred Kelberry: xiri :)
    Xirana Oximoxi: bye bye! :)
    Zen Arado: Nisargatta says a realized person doesn't say much
    Alfred Kelberry: http://i.imgur.com/s3Zas.jpg
    Zen Arado: Nisargadatta
    Eliza Madrigal: nice image
    Alfred Kelberry: tahiti - on my list :)
    Eliza Madrigal: I was thinking about Nisargadatta's "the hooks are all yours" the other day
    Zen Arado: lead boat looks like in the air
    Eliza Madrigal: pristine waters... looks amazing
    Zen Arado: saw a photo like that where two oceans meet
    Alfred Kelberry: yes... as if floating in the air
    Eliza Madrigal: but... I think anytime someone, even Nisargadatta, says "a realized person is like ___" I hesitate...
    Alfred Kelberry: a true believer can not question his guru! :)
    Zen Arado: it's only trying to explain something to someone
    Zen Arado: not an all time truth though
    Eliza Madrigal nods
    Zen Arado: his book is just that
    Eliza Madrigal: maybe much of the issue with communicating these things is bringing them into the context of our age
    Zen Arado: it wasn't that long ago :)
    Eliza Madrigal: have you heard about the new film Kumare?
    Zen Arado: no?
    Eliza Madrigal: A guy makes himself into a guru...
    Eliza Madrigal: to see who would follow him
    Zen Arado: ha
    Zen Arado: makes you think
    Eliza Madrigal: yes
    Zen Arado: don't follow gurus blindly
    --BELL--
    Eliza Madrigal: it is a limited release but looks good
    Zen Arado: I see that happen with Zen teachers
    Eliza Madrigal: blind faith in?
    Zen Arado: yeh
    Zen Arado: peple nearly worship them
    Alfred Kelberry: to be fair, it's eventually people who make one a guru
    Alfred Kelberry: there's no guru without a following
    Zen Arado: I was amazed at the way people genuflected to Ringu Tulku last year when he came into the room
    Zen Arado: I wasn't that impressed with him
    Zen Arado: ok nothing more
    Alfred Kelberry: :)
    Eliza Madrigal: well this is what I mean about 'our age' because of course that seems out of place in a way - however there is some value to submerging in another context...
    Eliza Madrigal: ancient
    Eliza Madrigal: similar to SL... one can make a world
    Zen Arado: it's my attitude to teachers too
    Eliza Madrigal: and immerse in ritual
    Zen Arado: learn what they have to teach and move on
    Zen Arado: teachers should make themselves redundant
    Eliza Madrigal: If I elaborated on my feelings there are a bazillion contradictions on the surface
    Zen Arado: not make people dependent on them
    Zen Arado: life is ultimately inexplicable
    Zen Arado: I think
    Alfred Kelberry: i'm glad the importance of context is recognized here :)
    Eliza Madrigal: well one depends in a different way, in a guru relationship (is one way to look at it) going beyond a level of trust that feels comfortable
    Zen Arado: that's my explanation :)
    Zen Arado: we need them at the start
    Eliza Madrigal is still starting : )
    Zen Arado: speeds learning
    Eliza Madrigal: I was thinking this morning about what an awful meditator I am, technically
    Eliza Madrigal: :)
    Zen Arado: how do you know?
    Zen Arado: you think there is a perfect way to meditate?
    Eliza Madrigal: this again is a surface assessment, because there is a way in which all is meditation (View)
    Zen Arado: some days my mind is quiet
    Eliza Madrigal: and in that sense, I aspire to live my life from that place
    Zen Arado: other days I just sit and my mind churns away the whole time
    Eliza Madrigal: however, I do think there is value to discipline and sitting in a way that allows one to stay - stability meditation wise
    Eliza Madrigal: think I am awful in that sense
    Zen Arado: just getting on the cushion
    Eliza Madrigal: yes
    Zen Arado: yeh that needs discipline
    Alfred Kelberry: eliza, again, if put it in a context of a particular school, you can assess your ability to meditate. but you if refer to it in general, then there's nothing to relate your experience.
    Eliza Madrigal: for me my sense is that everything is 'done' or 'here' or however you want to say it, but I won't see that unless 'Stopping' is center in my life
    Eliza Madrigal: true Boxy
    Zen Arado: but I don't find that as hard as some seem to
    Alfred Kelberry: this is why i think it's important to give context when yo udiscuss such matters
    Eliza Madrigal: well there are layers of context
    Eliza Madrigal: as in a literary sense
    Alfred Kelberry: one step at a time :)
    Zen Arado: Tibetan meditation is different from Zen meditation
    Zen Arado: and Theravdin
    Eliza Madrigal: not necessarily.... with these things things can take their own orders rather than those you try to impose (I find)
    Zen Arado: I prefer Joan Tollifson's description
    Eliza Madrigal: re one step at a time : )
    Eliza Madrigal: which is that Zen?
    Zen Arado: just sit quietly
    Zen Arado: forget all the techniques
    Eliza Madrigal: I think we already come full of techniques...
    Eliza Madrigal: so sometimes techniques are helpful to loosen those
    Zen Arado: most sessible description I ever saw
    Zen Arado: sensible
    Eliza Madrigal: not easy to just 'forget techniques' if one doesn't see them first
    Eliza Madrigal: no method still a method
    Zen Arado: you should see the way Zen adds them
    Zen Arado: minute detail
    Eliza Madrigal: ritual
    Alfred Kelberry: eliza, there's a start somewhere. then you take steps as you go. you don't know where it ends.
    Zen Arado: exactly boxy
    Eliza Madrigal: : ) or it is like inception and you realize in the middle 'how did I get here'
    Zen Arado: the road unfolds as you walk it
    Eliza Madrigal: I feel all my choices have come after I was already in them in some way
    Eliza Madrigal: strange thing to say but it is 'true' to my experience
    Zen Arado: we try to plan ahead too much or try to find the 'right way'
    Zen Arado: yes
    --BELL--
    Zen Arado: I better go make dinner
    Eliza Madrigal: : ) dine well Zen, thanks for the talk
    Alfred Kelberry: eliza, it seems like a good buddhist approach - try and see :)
    Zen Arado: thanks byee
    Alfred Kelberry: eat well
    Eliza Madrigal: :) yes - notice what you notice (ala Alan Ginsberg ala Eos)
    Alfred Kelberry: ok, off me go
    Eliza Madrigal: bye for now :)
    Alfred Kelberry: thank you for the company
    Eliza Madrigal: you too, play well

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